personal

when someone dies

feeling suicidal

When someone close to you dies, it can totally devastate you.  You might not be prepared for the intense feelings you have about the way your world has been turned upside down.  Sometimes this can make people wish they too were dead, cause their world without that person is now too scary, lonely or strange to carry on.  They might also think that dying will let them join the person who has died.  This is a common reaction, and for most people this feeling fades over time.

If you have feelings of wanting to die, if you can't stop thinking about it or if you're actually thinking of ways to do it, it's really important that you find some support. 

Find someone to talk to.  This could be:

• someone you know, like a friend or someone in your family

• a teacher that you trust, or your doctor or priest.

• or you could ring a helpline, such as ChildLine 0800 11 11, Samaritans 08457 90 90 90 (both open 24/7), or Cruse Youth Helpline 0808 808 1677, (open Monday to Friday, 9.30a.m. to 5p.m).

You could go online to www.there4me.com, to chat online in real time to an advisor, or send us an email to this website, which will be answered within 3 days by a trained volunteer.

However you’re feeling, it might help to remember that you’re not alone. If you look at the message board, you can read how other young people have dealt with feeling so bad that they wanted to kill themselves. But they didn't.  And their messages show that people do come through times like this.