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Liam, 23 August 2010
It has been about three weeks since my mum died when the day of the funeral was upon my family there was a lot of grief I mena how would you feel if you lost someone close.
But after the funeral we all went back to the pub to get drunk just like my mum wanted us to but me and my friend charlie were sat at the back of the room and I thought to my self and then told charlie it doesn't feel right every body cheering and shouting (I think it was the booze but im not sure) but I thought wait a minute about ten minutes ago there were loads of sobs and crying now evry bodys acting like there on another planet weird....!

No name, 13 August 2010
I lost my boyfriend 2 weeks ago in a cr accident. I only feel at peace when im praying for him. Sometimes i find myself talking to myself, cos i know and i feel him there. It's only been 2 weeks. And all i want it is to always remeber him. I was with him on the very day he passed away too. By making my family proud, is the only way i think he'll be proud off me.

broken heart, 12 August 2010
My boyfriend was killed on his motorcycle by a drunk driver.It was two weeks ago and it is so hard.We have been together for two years and talked everyday.I miss him calling me and asking how my day has been, or telling me goodmorning. I miss watching tv with him and going out to eat with him. I miss riding on his motorcycle with him. I miss spending the night with him.I feel like I have lost a part of me and it really hurts.He was my best friend that I could talk to about anything.My friends are great but the pain is still there. So many plans and dreams just gone in a blink of an eye.I feel empty,my stomach hurts a lot,I cry when I think about him,everytime the phone rings I think its him and then I remember.They say it takes time....its during that time it takes that is so hard...to live everyday as if all is good...go to work,eat,sleep and somehow try to smile.The pain in my heart that just will not go away.

Jessica, 31 July 2010
My father died less than a month ago. I cant get over it, i am in shock, i was angry at him because i never knew him for personal reasons but i understand now why.

How long will i feel like this for? I cant stop crying but i feel a presence around me all the which NEVER leaves what is it?

Laura, 26 July 2010
i am feeling exactly the same as all these people who have already shared their experiences. i lost my gran 3 weeks ago and i have never been the same since. she died of cancer and i knew she was really ill, i'm 16 years old, so i understood. although it all happened so fast. she was in and out of hospital for the last wee while and each day i went to see her and even though i knew there was no cure, i always thought, in a little bit of me somewhere that she'll get better. that everything would be how it used to be. she would be making me dinners on a friday and we'd go to the shops or snuggle on the sofa in front of the telly. anyway i was in school, in my english class and i got taken out because "someone was in the reception for me" and i knew. i knew from those words. that was the 28th june 2010 and that was the worst day of my life. i would love to talk to someone who feels the same. i feel like i have nothing to live for and each day i just want to die and be with her.

Tracey, 16 July 2010
My dad died a few weeks ago i find it hard to cry i just feel like there is a big lump in my throat. i feel so lost i dont know how to help the rest of my family its so hard and i actually feel a bit angry towards them sometimes what is wrong with me?

Star, 16 June 2010
My boyfriend died two weeks ago, he was hit by the police while they were answering to a call of duty. I miss him so much and it's so hard for me to even accept that he's gone. I still call him, text him and leave him messages on facebook. I just hope one day soon, i will be able to talk about how wonderful he was without choking back tears and when that day comes I pray to God that he doesn't become a distant memory, i want him to forever be in my heart like I will be in his.

Nicola, 30 May 2010
My mum died 3 weeks ago, It was so sudden and shocking to watch her quickly deteriate, she was sick for six weeks and went to hosptital on Easter Sunday and was dismissed and went back home for another two weeks she layed in her bed and was not eating, we all thought it was a virus as she had been told and then She went to hospital becauce my sister and i insisted we knew she could not continue and that she needed different medication and we stilll had to wait for 7 days of them finally looking into her illness further and did scans. She was told on the Sunday she had lung and bone cancer and died on the thurs, it has been so hard I cry myself to sleep everynight i feel lost empty and hollow, My life will never quite be the same again. I hate it when people tell me to be Strong, how can you be Strong when your Bestfriend/mum has died so suddenly. I cry so much and feel so much pain i feel like a little girl again who is calling for mummy. No one can understand the greif you feel and everyone is so differnt but my pain is so intense i feel a ache in my heart.

David, 5 May 2010
My mother passed away on the 14th of April 2010. Probably the most horrendous day of my life. I felt guilty for not having been there at the end. I felt guilty for all the things I should have done and said when she was alive. I felt anger at myself for not being able to save her. Most of all I miss her and know life will never be the same without her.

No name, 26 March 2010
My Grandad Died 2 weeks ago and we have just had his funeral but yet still it really hasnt sunk in that I wont see him again, I don't really cry much over it all, although he was one of the closest people to me and one of the best friends I had, I will show anger instead of Tears, I take it out on my friends which I know I shouldn't. It has helped that I can just walk out of class whenever I like and go to a teacher for support and to calm me down as my anger is over taking me completely and I am scared of what may happen. I read a speech at my Grandads funeral and I tried my hardest to stay strong for him which didnt really work out but I knew he would of known that I had tried for him. That ius one of the hardest things I have ever done and probarbly ever will do in my life reading for my Grandad but I am proud in myslef for doing it as I feel like that is the way I had said my final Goodbye to him. It was a shock, his death, no one could of knew it was coming and I dont think anybody did to be fair, he was 68 and a strong hard working, non retired man but he had a sudden heart attack whilst he was at work on his own and my Auntie found him 6 hours later. That was the hardest point in all of this, the shock of things but the saying TIME IS A HEALER. Is not true in the slightest, just take as much time as you need to get used to things but everybody knows with death nothing will be the same again you just have to try and stay strong.

Me, 9 March 2010
He died in motorcycle accident miles away .I knew about it the day after his funeral, on febuary 14th .Since the moment I learnt time stoped and this 4 weeks are just one long day or a bad dream I still hope will end.He was 24, beautiful like an angel .We were together when everything was against it and separated like it's only for five minutes.Last couple monthes we didn't talk , and it's not my fault but I was choking myself for everything I didn't do and didn't say.He deserved so much more.I don't watch tv-nothing, it's pointless , everything doesn't make sense if he is not in this World...

No name, 25 February 2010
my brother died in august. it seems like years ago. it was such a shock and has taken this long to even sink in. ihere's a trial in a few weeks. i don;t even know how i feel about that really. my grandma died a couple of weeks ago. that was another massive shock. i miss her so much and feel emotional almost constantly about it. i think it's because my brother's death's just sort of hitting me now and i love them both so much so everything's becoming harder to cope with. it still sometimes doesn;t feel real. i cant really talk about it to anyone. i wouldnt even know what to say. brother...6 months. granny..2 weeks.xxx

Kaddy, 1 February 2010
My nannan died a few days after new year and ive never been the same since. My boyfriend and i almost split up because i was too emotional and always took it out on him. My dad moved to kent and left me in sheffield, now i feel i have no-one who cares for me. The only person who is always there for me is my mum. My nannans death has killed me inside, and im gonna be turning 15 in a few months and my nan always had the perfect gift and smile there. She loved me so dearly and when she was laying in her hospital bed she was always staring at me trying to say something but then when she only got one word out i heard her breath go and her eye's just automatically shut. I shook her and shouted her name but she had left me. I will always miss her.

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