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my boyfriend/girlfriend died

We've collected together some stories and experiences that have been sent into the website of how different people have felt after the death of their girlfriend/boyfriend:

I lost my boyfriend 3 months ago in a motorcycle accident. We had been together 5 years+. It is so hard to find words to comfort someone when I can't comfort myself. I went to his grave today for the first time. (He's buried 3 hours from where I live.) It was so hard. All I can tell you is keep your head up and keep busy.

My boyfriend of 3 years just died in a motorcycle accident a month ago. I feel like I have lost everything. I have lost not only my boyfriend, but my best friend too. I could tell him anything. I miss him so much.

My boyfriend - my soul mate - my best friend died in a car wreck on Jan. 29 of this year. Each day has truly been a journey and all I can say is be patient with yourself. There's no magic pill, no words, no secret receipe that will make things better. Give yourself time! Grieve in your own time and at your own pace.

Listen to no one, but yourself. People say a lot of things, but only you understand the pain. Cruel people will tell you to get over it, move on, you'll find another boyfriend, etc... Obviously, these are people who have never experienced what we have. These are clueless people and steer clear of them -- for the time being. It's ok to put unsupportive friends and family "on the shelve" until you're ready to deal w/ them.

Embrace the memories and the unique love you shared with him. We never truly lose the ones we love, they live forever in our hearts.

Just under a month ago, my boyfriend died in a moped accident while we were working out in Greece. It is the worst thing that will ever happen to me, he asked me to marry him while we were there. We had argued that night and the last thing we did was shout at each other... I can't even comprehend how I'm going to carry on without him, we spent every single day together and since we had been living in Greece we had been working together every day too. I really don't know how I'm ever going to carry on, he was my air, I don't just love him, I need him and without him my life seems worthless. He was the reason I woke up every morning, and now he's gone.

Almost three years ago I lost my boyfriend. We had been together since I was about 7 years old! Ten years later, he was taken from me. Everyone knew that he was the man I was going to marry! I even had our wedding planned! All that was needed was a date. My heart goes out to all of you. I still think about him every day, but now the pain no longer subsides. I feel a great sense of relief. I was lost at first without him. I saw him in every person that I made contact with. I was in complete devastation. Three years have gone. I have since met a man that is the world to me, but I still catch myself comparing him to my true love.

My boyfriend died just before christmas last year. After he died i went to pieces, i saw him everywhere and i wanted to die too. My friends were great at first but after a while they stopped asking and just acted like nothing had happened because i pretended i was ok. i wasnt ok. this went on for a while and then i broke down at school, i cried and cried, my friends were brilliant. they explained that they hadnt said anything to me or asked if i was ok because they didnt want to upset me and they didnt know what to say. its probably the same with yours. i was only 17 when it happened and lots of my friends hadnt come across a death that sad and early before (he was 20) so they didnt know how to act or what to say.
I guess what im trying to say is that your friends will want to help you but just dont know how to do it.
rich was my whole world and everything i ever wanted. but since then ive done my alevels, and been accepted into university. life does go on, but i know that hes always with me and ill always love him, hes proud of me.

my boyfr died in a carcrash 8 months ago and all i want to do is see him again. my doctor put me an sleepin tablets cos i couldnt sleep at all and its been so hard not to take an overdose. the thing thats stopped me is knowing what its like to lose some1. i wouldnt want to deliberately put any1 thro the pain and grief that i went thro. i love him so much but i know that he doesnt want to c me yet.

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