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No name, August 2010
my dad died unexpectedly in june 2010 :( it hurts, i feel numb and my heart phsically aches

No name, August 2010
In june we had a hard time because my great grandad got very ill he had to be taken to hospital we knew he would never come out again about a week after we found out he had lung cancer that then scared me because i knew he would not last and when my great grandad heard this news he was very upset and he did not want to live any longer every day was hard his son (my grandad) was very upset aswell we all was on the 10th he got very ill in hospital and this time we knew he would go we thought he would go late that night to be honest he was on breathing machines and everything on the 11th he was sent to a hospice 2 hours later he unfortunatly lost the battle.he was my family favourite and still is i hurt soo much every day and its 2 months on and it has not got any easier
MISSING MY GREAT GRANDAD LOADS and loads always in my heart <3 R.I.P

katie, 13 May 2010
about one month ago my dad died.
he had a mental condition called bipola, this made him incredibly depressed at times and the other times it made him incredibly crazy at others, he was also a heavy drinker and this lead to constant bottles a night, my dad and i was very close after my mom devorsed him from his affair with my moms bestfriend, about 3 years later i didnt see my dad for a whilee about a year, and then my brother found out he was in a mental hospital where he reuninet with my brother, finnaly it came to my birthday and he gave me my presents and then i saw my dad for the first time in the year, i was on top of the word so happy! thought he was aswell, but i didnt understand his illness. we were seeing eachother most weekends met my friends many times and my boyfriend. it was march 25th my dads birthday the last time i saw him. my granma and grandad usually heard from my dad everyday they hadnt spoke to him for about a week. this was not usual so they went round to visit, no ancwer? my granma rememberd her key to my dads flat went upstairs and my dad had took an overdose, he took evry single one of his medicaation that he was diagnosed for his mental condition. i miss him so much and want to be with him, ive evan thought of doing the same so im with him. i want to be happy and since my dad commited suicide evrythinks became worst. i read a speech at my dads funeral and it was quite clear how much i love him. i talk to people about this, but it dosent seem like theyt ever understand, i wish there was someone there, someone whos been through this simular situation as me, im 14
thankyou people who have read this. my names katie btw. xxxxx

Juliette, 10 May 2010
It's been one month exactly today since my Gran B passed on. I miss her every day. She died of lung cancer, I think about her every day, but would never wish her back, she's in a better place now, a place with no fear, no pain and no lonlyness.

I love you Gran B, for ever and ever. I will never forget you, all my love, your grand daughter, Juliette x x x x god bless you now and forever x x x x

Daniel, 17 February 2010
Well, I lost my father around 2 months ago. Im 15 to those of you who are wondering. Let me explain. It was a normal hectic sunday last minute h/w etc. Until I heard my mum scream my name. I knew straight away that something was up. I ran downstairs and saw my dad slouched in the couch unconcious and not breathing. The Ambulance volvo came within a matter of minutes. It was a relief when i heard the wail of the sirens. After this I geniunely thought he would be ok. The paramedic shocked him several times. Nothing changed. Ambulance arrives 10 minutes later.... Nothing. Third Ambulance .... he gets a output and a pulse. He starts breathing again on his own. Although he remains unconcious.

To cut a long story short, he suffered a silent MI. It was that bad, that he went straight into Cardiac Arrest.

Apparently, he had a output several times, yet it never remained for more than a few minutes. His heart was too badly damaged.

For the first few days, what had happend did not kick in, even during the funeral I remained both composed and calm.

Now 3 months on, the real effects are hitting home. Whenever we had an argument, Dad would say " you will miss me when I'm gone." I always thought this was a joke. How wrong was I ....

Tia, February 2010
Well I lost a reli gur friend on the 10.12.09 she was only 16 i just dont understand y sumert lyk this cud happen .. its just not ryt... i didnt even get to say bye.. i just hope she knows how sorry i am, cuz we had a fyt a cupple ov munfs befor she died and its killin me i rememba the fiyt all the time i imagine it over and over again . i rli didnt wana fiyt her :[ i dnt know wah to do i regret it soo much. buh we started talkin a day before she died and its killin me to know if she didnt die then things would go back to normal... i didnt get the chance to be close to here how we used to be.. i miss her soo much... i fort yer i can deal wid it cuz shes wiv us...but school is a constant remindah of her.. its a gurd fing tho buh it also bad cuz everywhere i go she was normal ryt there wiv meh... now im sitin here listen to all her songs she lurved and its just maad... everyfinks gone downhill i dont wanna be lk this i dnt wanna keep being angry but i just cnt deal with it... 2 months on wednesday and it only seems lyk yesterday we were avin a larf:[ i miss you amie i really do... theres not a day that goes by where i regret the fiyt i wish i could talk to you or even see you... :[

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