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Message from: vicky, 28 Jan 06

Subject: mum

its comming up to febuary now-the worst month because my mum died on the 25th my brothers birthday-she had a car crash she wasnt wearing her seatbelt, i dont nderstand why really but it made me really sad inside i couldnt talk to people about it and i still cant so everyone just expects that im fine but really im not and i cant tell anyone.
i dont know really what to do for my brothers birthday-wether to enjoy it or not-wether to cry or to laugh, i cant express my emotions very well, i hate crying in front of people.
i just dont know what to do..im so confused i miss my mum so much and i dont think this message is making anysense atall.
i spoke to my mum before she left the gym on her way home, she said shed be home soon...
but she wasnt
i dont really know what im asking for now..advice i guess but please help.

Subject: both things are important

im 14 and my mother died 2 years ago i feel guilty evrytime i celebrate something which we used to do together. its important to let your brother have a fun day, its never going to be easy,try and have a party with lots of games and destractions. but if you need to go to a private room and have some private thinking time to remember her then go back to the party. perhaps in the evening where you can remember her as a family and also celebraye your bothers birthday.

try not to feel guilty but it is normal

talk to me if you need to