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Message from: lizzie, 14 Jan 05

Subject: 2 years

It's been 2 years since my mum died. It's gone by fast and lots has happened. I miss her and I miss her when she misses important things that happen. Like i've started uni and am now in my second term and she missed that. If there was one wish in the world it wuld be that my mum would have lived to a rip old age and we wuld have been happy.

Subject: My dad

Hi Lizzie, I understand how your feeling. I lost my dad in march last year so its been 10 months yesterday and I miss him like crazy. It didn't hit me until I started Uni in september but I feel so bad because I've not had time to think about him. I find myself making myself busy so i can avoid gettig upset but its not good. People say it gets easier in time, but it's getting harder for me.Do you live with your dad?

Subject:Thank you

Hi
Thank you for replying and I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. Yes I live with my dad and brother- when my brother and I aren't away at uni. Do you live with your mum? People do say it gets easier over time and I think that's true, but for some people that time will be a lifetime, and for others it will be a few years. I don't cry so much about my mum anymore and I don't miss her as much as I did. I feel it's crazy that I'm saying this as I want to miss my mum in some way because she was the person who meant the most to me. I loved her the most. Yet as time goes by, I guess you have to adjust to them not being there, almost like adjusting to loosing a limb- that is, when a person looses a limb- initially there is great pain, and after time that pain fades to lesser pain, but the person will still be crippled for life with their loss. I think C.S. Lewis said that- the guy who wrote Narnia. He used loosing a limb as an analogy for using a loved one.
lots of luv to you x x

Subject:(no subject)

i lost my dad 2 years ago and i feel the same, hes missed all the important things and all i think about is all the important things hes going to miss too and it tears me up but i dont know how to express my feelings cos my mum doesnt want to listen, believe me ive tried talking to her and it didnt work. i have no idea whats going on any more becasue i dont know how i should handle it

Subject:1 year on

hi, my mum died a year ago this month my grandad also died this yr so it has been a very tough yr. i cant stop thinking about how young she was and how young i was to loose a mum. she also goin to miss out on so many thing like my uni graduation, getting married (thats a long time away) etc etc. it upsets me to think how much she is missing. my mates have tried to be helpful but now they think i should be bac to normal an im not, ive bin to the doctors an put on anti depressants coz i could no longer cope. im s glad to have foun this message bored an realise im not going mad an its all normal.