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Message from: emma, 29 Dec 05

Subject: he didn't tell me

my grandad died a few months ago and i still miss him not a night goes by without me crying and all my mum says is "he wouldn't want u to be upset. i remember the day ,( my grandad is my dad's dad BUT i never c my dad and i don't want to he recked my family) i was very close to my grandad because he was the only family left really that i saw on my dads family except the best uncal in the world but he is in the army so i don't c him that oftern. i get so upset i have panic attacks. but the worse eva thing is that he never told me that he had cancer and it kills me, and he was the kindist person eva i loved him wiv all my heart and i just want to tell him. my mum sat my dowm and told me i took it bad i wouldn't eat i just love him so much it hurts and i am only 15 i don't no how long it going to last. plz plz plz plz help me

Subject:Hang in there

my grandma never told me she had cancer till it was to late , i still think off her even tho it was a long time ago i just hope the pain goes away for u . just hang in xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: Grandad

Emma you have got to try and remember the good times with your Granddad. My Granddad died nearly 2 years ago and he had lung cancer. I knew he was ill but not bad. My mum said she would tell me if he had something wrong with him but it never happende. I found out 3 days b4 he died and I now know that you've got to grasp the moment and be happy that he is in no pain anymore and in a better place. Write bac if possible.

Subject:(no subject)

i am so sorry to hear about your grandad,my dad died suddenly in a motorbike accident and i never got chance to say goodbye,no-body knows when the pain will go away and im still not sure what to say to people who are in the same boat but i hope you feel better soon, and having good days are allowed,i always felt guilty but its ok to be happy,your grandad would want that for you.i am 16 and i still feel like its never going to go away and its been 6months now!i hope you can try to carry on for ur grandads sake,he is watchin over you and still loves you back. hope this helps a little bit if nothing else, sam xxx

Subject:Reply to Emma he didnt tell me

Hi Emma,
I lost my nan just under 2 years ago now. I also never knew she was going to die. Maybe your Grandad never wanted to hurt you he may just have wanted to spend the last times he had with you as normally as possible.
It would be wrong for me to say I no how you feel, because we all feel differently at such a sad time but I really do hope that every think works out for the best for you in 2006!
I ask one thing talk to some one about your grandad (even a tecaher although I no most ppl dont get on very well with them! But it was a teacher that helped me through afer my nan died!!)

Subject: thank you all

i am so happy that u all replyed its just i never saw my grandad that much because he lived in yorkshire and i live in wales. when my dad started having an affair with my aunty he pulled my family apart, cos my dad lived with my grandad and he came down 2 c us and then when we was off school we would go to c my grandad.but then my dad recked it and i only saw my grandad a couple off times before he died and the thing that bothers me is that when 1 of my uncles knew my grandad was ill he took me to c grandad but all my uncle said was how he took us every were and he lived us
but after my grandad died my uncle rich ( he is in the army and is the best and he was the best uncle out of all of them)his wife is the best 2 my aunt she always helps me out and plays football wiv me he is my dad he sends me txts vidio clips saying he loves me and he misses me and says u are my liitle welsh dragon(what my grandad used to call us)and i am a godmother to his 2 children and i see them a couple of times a month. I AM SO SORRY I JUST BLAG but my life is so messed up

my dads some were with my aunty and 2 cousins and a step sister but i dont care.

my grandads gone and he didn't tell me and i wanted to tell him so much

my uncle (the 1 i don't like) i haven't seen and dosn't care now my grandads gone

i don't have any 1 to speak 2

but 1 good thing my uncle rich and his wife and children i love them all so much

Subject: (no subject)

Sorry about your grandad.

Subject:i need your help its my sister

thank u all u have helped me, and i am sorry for the people u lost. i like talking about my grandad to u cos it helps me but if u don't mind i need ur help with somthing else my sister is a little older then me and i am worried because she has changed so much in a little time and she told me that a taxi driver a has been picking her up so times when she phoned for a taxi and has been feeling her leg she had to tell me this because the night she told me she was in her mates and phoned 4 a taxi and it was him and she askeed her friend to get in the taxi wiv her and my sis went to go in the back but he told her to get in the front but i am scared cos she is not the same and i think she quit her job cos of it. so what do i do. do i tell my uncle rich MY MUM CANNOT FIND OUT SHE WILL KILL HIM plz plz HELP i am so sorry its just u helped me sooo much copping wiv my grandads death cos i haven't got no 1 to talk to but plz help me . xx

Hi Emma - Thank you for your message, and understand that it must be a very difficult time for you and your sister. However, I am a bit concerned with regards to your sister and this "taxi driver". Is their any possibility that you could call us on the Helpline so we can have a chat about this? The Helpline number is free and the number is 0808 808 1677. Our service is confidential and maybe we could help you out. Or you may want to call Childline for some advice on 0800 11 11.

Thanks
RD4U Team