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Message from: Pamela, 26 Dec 05

Subject: Dad

I am going through a major bereavement, i lost my Dad in May this year.....it has knocked me back a good bit, constantly crying anywhere i go and to make it worse Christmas which i am not interested in - my Mum is in care with Alzheimers luckily she still knows me which is a massive bonus but it will get worse - i am interested in nothing since my Dads death, he was the best father anybody could have and its killing me - trying to cope with day to day life is awful, i have a councillior that visits me but all the talking in the world is not going to help me - i have not many mixed emotions in me. I just want my Dad back:o(

Subject:Dad

to pamela, sorry to hear about your dad,mine died in june and i feel exactly like you do,i cry at the littlest things that remind me of him and i dont have any interest in anything any more,i thought it was just me,obviously not.i think i need a councilsor but i daren't get one,wats it like?sorry to hear about your mum too but it is defiently a good thing that she remembers you.i never know what is the right emotion to be feeling,i can get so mad about it and so sad in the space of seconds!i wish we all could have our loved ones back,it hurts so much but i hear it gets better even though we can't belive it now.Im finding xmas very hard especially as my parents were seperated so things are bit more complicated as i have to visit my dads wife and kids on my own not seein my dad like normal, hope you feel better soon,love sam xxxx *hug* xxxx

Subject:Loss of my dad

Thank you Sam for replying to my message - the Councillior that visits me mainly deals with Anxiety/Depression due to a Bereavement - to be honest its not helping me at all - they say it helps to talk but he is focusing on my Anxiety and doing breathing exercises to help me calm down - well i am sorry but that is not going to bring my Dad back - i do hope you get through all this, but dont be put off with what i said maybe councilling could help you. All the best and take care, my thoughts are with you. -X-

Subject:My dad

I never realised there were other young people who had lost their dad too. It's strange how different people cope. My dad died suddenly in March last year, and he was my best friend ever, we did everything together. But coz it was sudden I was fine, I hardly even cried until now. But now, its the anniversary of the day he died on March 15th and my whole world feels as though its falling apart! Everything has hit me like a ton of bricks and i can't cope with anything! Im so forgetful and unorganised. Hve other people felt like this after a year?

People say it gets easier but for me, its getting harder!

Jaynie xxxx