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Message from: kt, 12 Dec 05

Subject: my dad dying

hi, my name is kt. in the last year i have lost my friend and my dad. They both meant the world to me in different ways. I have learnt to live with my best friend not being here, i still find it hard but im much stronger now. However, my dad died 7 months ago this christmas, he had a sudden and premature heart attack at the age of 46 and i seem so strong but inside im not. Somedays i just sit awake and cry, i always think about him and at the moment i cant bear hearing everyone else talking about their dads and how everyone else has their dad around me, and not me. It hurts so badly and seems worse than it did at the beginning of his death. I have read some of the other peoples messages and there truly touching. Please send a message back to help me, even though there truly isn't a real way to make yourselfs feel better or to deal with it.

Subject:Dad

i was touched by your message, i to lost my dad in May - i dont want to celebrate xmas at all, just wish it was all over - its for us both but we will get thru it but will take a long time....my thoughts are with you.

Subject: (no subject)

Hiya Kt i was the same i used 2 hate my friends always talking about their dads cos i hadnt got mine around. And when we used 2 go on holiday and u see the dads playing in the swimming pool with them i missed that. And i hated ppl talking about my dad my nan sed 2 me the 1 day everytime i look at u u remind me of ur dad and started crying and i hated it but know i think back and i am proud of what she sed i am glad i look like my dad cos we are both stunning lol!

So the way u feel isnt unusal, i think most people feel the same!

And your dad would want you to have a nice christmas, so go and enjoy it!

Loadza hugz Nina xxxx

Subject:your dad and my dad

hi there,
i read your message and i thought yes,it sounds like me,i too lost my dad which i was close to,he died in april id a sudden heart attack and internal bleed,he had just turned 48,he had texted me during the day and i deleated it,it was just a normal text,i didnt get to say goodbye and i too now find life a lot harder now,im on antidepressants,i have a 4 year old daughter and she helps me remain focused on life but now ive had enough of the pain i have of missing my dad,
you take care
kate,
message me back if you like

Subject:your dad

i know how you feel sweetheart.wish i could give you a hug.my dad died wen i was 12.i am much older now,but he will always be in my heart.i used 2 hate fathers day and stuff.try 2 remember the love he gave you and be the best you can for him.chin up sweetie.