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Message from: Grace, 03 Oct 05

Subject: My Dad drunk and died

Hello, my name is Grace and I am 9. My mum is typing for me.
I was 6 when my Dad died from being an alcoholic. I was in Cornwall going on my way to Tintagel and we got a message from the hospital that my dad was going to die. He died that evening.
At school I cant concentrate on my work now because I have trouble coming into school and I have to sit with my LSA to calm me down. I would like to know if there are any people on this message board who have been in the same situation as me.
Thankyou
Grace

Subject:My dad died too

Dear Grace,
My dad died just before my 14th birthday, I am now 25 but sometimes I still feel like the girl I was back then. I too had lots of problems at school after my dad died, I was bullied when people found out and I hated going to school because of this. When I was at school I couldn't concentrate either, all I did was think about my dad and get upset. What got me through it was knowing that my dad would have wanted me to get a good education and do well in my adult life. I felt as though my dad was smiling down at me when I passed 8 G.C.S.E's. You will in time make your dad very proud Grace, I know you will. It will hurt for a while yet but you will eventually do as I did and become a happy and confident young woman. Do it for your mum aswell, remember that she too is missing your dad and it will cause her more upset to think that your school work is suffering. Make everyone proud of you Grace. I'm here if you need a different shoulder to cry on. Take care xxxx

Subject: I know how u feel

My dad was also a alchoholic. The doctor tld him he had 10 yrs 2 live but later tht yr he died because of the drink. i find it hard to concentrate at school also and my friends don't seem 2 understand wot its like. Stay strong and remember tht ur dad had to find peace and thts y he went.

Subject:its not easy

hi. im 18 an i lost my brother. no matter what age u r its sill hard. i write poems and letters about and to my brother and it helps thats one thing u could do. im also making a memory box of pictures of my brother, friends and family and putting my writing in there. that way if u miss them u can look at the pics an remember what a great time u had and see how ur coping but re-reading what u wrote. i hope this helps u xx

Subject: My Dad

Thank you for your messages especaly you Ellie, i will use that method in future because i think if you dont want to tell anyone about someones death but still let it out then putting your thaughts into a box is a good idea.
Grace.xxxxxxx