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message no. 772
| Message from: Adam
M, 16 Aug 05 |
| Subject: Parents
Hi my names Adam i lost my mum to bone cancer back in 2001 4 years
ago now. and in the same year around xmas time my dad went in
hospital with bowel cancer and now he is disabled.
I was 14 when this happened and am now 18, it happened so quick
i neva knew what to do, or even say and its really hard to deal
with but i have to and i get told im a strong character by most
people as ive neva met any body whos in the same boat as me.
i would hope to get chatting to some lads and gals on here and
make new friends if any body wants a chat let me know. Adam
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Reply from: kate
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Subject:parents
hi adam,
i lost my dad 8 months ago and we were very close he gave me away at me wedding and was there when i gave birth to my daughter and now he is gone,i still have my mum and im lucky for that but my dad died a part of my mum died,she just isnt herself and now im on antidepressants,life is so unfair,have you thought bout speaking to your doctor,it sounds silly but he may be able to help,
please reply and let me know how you are getting on,
kate
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Reply from: Lucy
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Subject:Parents
Hi there, sorry to hear about your mum, and you dad being in that situation. I have now lost both my parents; My father when I was 12 and my mother in march of this year, two weeks before I turned 21. If you wanna chat, msg me, I'm a good listener, and still finding it tough myself.
Lucy x
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Reply from: kate
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Subject: coping without parents
he there lucy,kate here,
how do you cope without both parents,well i know that we somehow cope coz we have too.
when my dad died in april,a part of my mum died,and now whenever i speak to my mum which is a lot.even when shes had a good day,i can always hear that she aint right and that she is sad and lonley,its hurts me as i know taht she is hurting,i know that im lucky as i have a wonderful daughter whos 4 and a great husband but i have been thinking about ending my life as i miss my dad so much and im fed up with it now,i wont do anything silly,i now live for my daughter but i cant help haveing those thoughts,im on antidepressants and waiting foe councilling but none of that will bring my dad back,will it? sorry to go on,message me back if you want,
take care
kate
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Reply from: shaz
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Subject: loss of both parents
Hi, I know how you are feeling and on times I feel so absolutely helpless as someone who was very close to both parents but sadly lost my Mum to Cancer 4 years ago at the age of just 52, which devastated both myself, my brother and especially my Dad. My Dad had changed when we lost Mum as he became withdrawn and lost a lot of weight but with myself and my husband coaxing we managed to get him out and about and even to Spain a few times with a view soon to him moving in with us and eventually moving to Spain but then devastation struck again and on the day (14th of May this year) that we were due to go to Cornwall for a few days break my Dad didn't turn up at the time we planned and was not answering either the house phone or his mobile so I went to look for him as he only lived 10 minutes away only to find him in his car, suit case on the back seat, engine running ready to come up but he was dead. We later found out that he had died of a massive heart attack, for him it was a good way to go as we were told he wouldn't have known anything about it but for me it has been devastating as it was a shck to find him and he seemed so well physically anyway and he had just turned 59 and the week before we celebrated my birthday and my Dad was up dancing and fooling about. I know in my heart I will never get over losing both parents but can only hope they are together now and I know I have to do the best I can to be there for the people who are still here and need me. Hopefully one day we will all be together again and can catch up on what we have all done and acheived. All the best and if you want someone to talk to I am a good listener as well as talker. Shaz x |
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