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Message from: Ali, 09 May 05

Subject: Dad died 5yrs ago

My Dad died 5 yrs ago when I was 12. I can't remember much about him anymore. I still cry at night, cus I wish he was still alive. I don't talk about him or see his grave at all as it just reminds me.I don't think Im still over the fact he's gone, even after all these years. I've also started to fear about the fact of my mum dying and I'll have no one. I find it hard to talk to people and tell them I haven't got a dad, so only a few of my close friends know. I don't know what I can do.

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sorry to hear about your dad, my nan died about a just after a year and it took me a long time to visit the grave, but try going, if you go on your own and stay a bit and take some thing that ment a lot to your dad or just flowers, tidy the grave up and make it look nice, i hope my advice will help you xxxxxxx live strong, your dad would have wanted you to be happy and have a good life, just remmeber that!!!!

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Hi, I know exactly how you feel my dad died 6 years ago and I have since lost both my grandads one 2 weeks ago and one a year ago both at the age of 64, my dad was only 36 and only 2 of my friends no about my dad i just cant tell the others and i find it si hard. In time you will be able to visit your dads grave i have started going regularly and it is very peaceful when you are there but remember if you dot go your dad is still there always looking after you and wathcing what you do and listening. so talk to him when you want. Reply if you wanna talk some more. Take care xxxx

Subject:i understand so much

hi i really understand my dad died nearly 4 years ago and i cant remember the last thing i said to him which really hurts i miss him so much and no one wants to bring it up but i think it would help to talk to someone.just stay strong and remember some people are going through the same as you.

Subject: Hiya all

nothing that nobody says can take your pain away, however people can help to ease the pain.
my dad died for years ago and like you i couldnt visit his grave, but i finally made the trip on his anniversary last month. dont feel bad about not going, i alsways see it as hes not just at the grave, he is everywhere i go, so why does it matter about going to a grave.
it was nice to go and put some flowers down, but its not neccesary.
i have found it easier to talk to friends about my dad even tho they didnt know him. it does help!!
hope everything is ok xx