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Message from: Leeann, 04 May 05

Subject: the thing I fear most

i really miss dad but sometimes when i picture himi cant remember bits of him like his nose or the colour of his eyes the more time that passes the more mixed up his image has become in my head. wat happens if i forget everytthing even his smile wich was the best thing about him?

Subject:memories

dear leeanne, I know what it is like to feel scared about losing memories of your dad. Some one gave me some really good advice about how to keep your loved ones memory alive. You could make a special treasure chest of little bits and pieces of things from your dad like, maybe his jumper so when you need a hug from him you can wear it, photos of him that you can kiss with his beautiful smile, an after shave bttle that still has a smell or deodarant he used to use, his hanky that when you are sad you can cry on, to smell to touch, to see to remember, these are wonderful gifts for you to hold dear to year heart when you are scared you will forget. If you have none of these things, then go and ask every person that knew your dad and write them in a very special diary for you to cherish forever, warm wishes. xox

Subject:(no subject)

hi sorry about ur dad y not make a memory box so when u feel u r forgetting u could look in it u could put photos of ur dad in it or if draw a picture of how u remember him if u have no photos u could also write things down about him and what he liked and what u did together u could also put anything in their that remind u of him hope this helps take care luv jen xxx

Subject: i understand

hiya, allthough no 1 will eva know exactly how u fell i can understand wen my dad died the day after my 15th birthday almost a year ago it neva felt real and still doesn't! sum times i go home from school or work with good news or a funny story to tell him and still get a shock to find he isnt there! but in a way it comforts me because if he had really left my side i wouldn't feel him there and the fact i still does proves he is there and watching me. dont let any one tell u how u feel is wrong because it is just the way i felt, as though nothing had happened and we jus had to keep going. but in a few months wen things start to hit home dont u keep it bottled up coz thats wat i did and it didnt help me at all. tlk to sum 1 close, or do wat i did keep a diary or write story's or peoms to express your feeling! good luck and stay strong xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject:(no subject)

hello! i also feel like that. my dad died four years ago and i am so scared about forgotton the little things that matter. i dont have much to remember him by but have a photo in a frame on my desk and look at it loads of times in the day! i even have a giggle to myself cos i find myself talking to the photo, sounds daft but it does help! i always feel like he is listening to me!
you will never forgot how much you loved him and how much he loved you, that is the most important thing xxxxxx keep strong xxxxx