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Message from: Laura, 16 Mar 05

Subject: im finding the death of my sister hard to cope with

i am finding the death of my sister 8 months ago really hard to deal with. She wasnt just a sister she was my best mate

Subject:I have been there

Hey Laura. I have been exactly where you are now. I lost my sister many years ago, infact it was the 13th anniversary of her death on March 15th. My sister had been disabled and idolisied her for her courage and her love, she was my world. When she died it felt as though I had lost everything, part of me died with her and I could not cope. I started drinking and destroying my own life but I have stopped that now. Your sister is with you every day, wherever you go she will be there. I know that it is hard and thatno words can change how you feel, but you have to stay strong, let the memories of her carry you through life. Remember her spirit, the fun and all the love you shared and be strong so that you can tell the world what a wonderful person your sister was. If you ever feel lonely talk to her because although you cannot see her she will always be listening. Take care of yourself, and stay strong, someday the pain will eventually get easier even if it never disappears. Lotsa Love Lorna xx

Subject:coping with the death of your sister

I lost my brother 11 months ago and the pain is still hard to cope with.Some days the thought of facing another day without my brother with me kills me.I've even wanted to be where he is now, but I carry on I have to. He would want me to.I think of the good times we had together and this brings a smile to my face, so now I try my best to always think of the good times when I'm down. You are not alone in how you feel, believe me. Take each day as it comes, that's all you can do. I'm thinking of you. Laura

Subject:Death of my sister

My 17 yr old sister died last monday in a car accident, the driver was drunk and the car flipped over, my sister wasnt wearing a seatbelt and was flung 30m out of a side window. she sustained serious head injuries and died in hospital, we had to take her off life support. How do I deal with this now? how can i get it into my head that I will never see her again? all of my childhood memories are destroyed as is the life ahead of me. Please help

Subject:Losing a sister

Hi Laura
I lost my sister 18 months ago, Rachel had a brain haemmorhage with no previous symptoms. She was on a life support machine for 3 days and then that was it. It broke my heart as we were not just sisters we were best friends and I miss her still all the time. I have got no answers for you but I try to take each day as it comes and do the things that make me feel good - lots of which we used to do together. At first it was impossible to go swimming and shopping but now I feel she is with me doing the things we both enjoyed together. I know I will never ever get over Rachel's death but you must reach out for the things and people that are there to help you. I have lost a lot of my family members, but none have hurt like this. I am thinking of you as noone can understand the pain felt when losing a sister. Love Gill xx

Subject: Same

My dearest sister and only sibling was brutally murdered about a month ago by an ex boyfriend. I never saw any signs of him being a psycho. Which makes it even harder to deal with. There is no worse feeling than waking up and having nothing to look forward to. I've stopped work and school, and I'm hiding from the world everyday. I don't know how you guys did it, but this is not easy.

Subject: ur not the onli 1s

my dad sed to my neice where do u wanna go? and mi neice sed to heaven b coz she knows her mummy is there.
my sista died on da 28th of November 2006 bcoz a car crash.