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Message from: jessie, 05

Subject: confused

My best friends Mum recently died of cancer. When she was upset I got taken out of class to comfort her. Now she has chosen another girl to go out with her and they just muck about.I feel really pushed out- my mum says this is her way of dealing with it. We used to be brilliant friends but now it feels like I'm being pushed out. Has anyone gone through the same experiences?

Subject:Your friend

Hi Jessie - really sorry to hear about your situation - it must really hurt to have offered her so much support & them seemingly be rejected. You need to understand that she is not rejecting you - & inside she still really cares deeply for you. Her emotions are probably really mixed up right now, & at the moment she probably wants to forget what happened & hang out with someone who she hasn't shared any of her emotions about her Mum with - someone she can just have a giggle with. I know this soulds really silly, but I guarantee she will come back to you as a friend soon - she'd be silly not to! I know it's hard, but you have to hang in there - don't say or do anything you might regret later - keep remembering that your friend is still feeling the death of her mother, & having a jealous friend won't help her. Just let her know that you are still there for you - she'll want to talk soon enough & when she does you'll be the person she comes to. Maybe organise to do something with her one weekend or evening? If you don't think she's really for talking yet, how about going to the cinema to watch a comedy, or even inviting her over to do the same, & have an eve of girly fun? I hope she realises what's she's missing soon, Good Luck, Han xxx