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Message from: *Stargirl*, 29 Jan 05

Subject: Moving on

am sick and tired of being sad. I just want to get on with my life. This makes me feel guilty because i feel i should be thinking about the recent death of my father. Is this wrong???

Subject:its not wrong to move on *stargirl*

im sorry for ur loss. i dont think ur dad would have wanted u to be sad or want you to be down. i know how hard it is not to be! believ me but if its of ne help I think he would be wanting u to celebrate what great things u guys did together and all the great things that happened for him and for all the great things he had in his life! Hes with u all the way by your side. I dont know ur dad but i know that no father would want their child to be misirible or sad. Grieve for as long as u need and then think of the good things and chin up look to the future! u may not believ it now but time does heel. Be strong!

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No its not wrong, cos ur father would want you 2 b happy and get on wiv ur life and u should think bout him, but not the sad parts, just the happy. Just cos u want to be happy it does not mean you have got over it cos its something that you will neva get over.

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NO! Of course it's not wrong - you obviously loved you Dad loads & will never forget him - I'm sure he wouldn't want you to be sitting around being miserable, I'm sure he would much rather you got on & enjoyed yourself - make him proud. But don't worry if you do need to take time out occassionally to think of him - this is only natural - maybe make a keepsake box with photos etc for times like these? I made a little scrapbook of things that remind me of my Dad & it's nice to look at it just occassionally - it makes me cry, but it's nice to remember good times as well. Take care, Han xxx