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Message from: Tanya, 26 Jan 05

Subject: My brother died

My brother died 7 weeks ago, he was involved in a car crash. i really want to speak to other people who have been through a similiar experience so i can see how to cope with this terrible emptiness and sadness.

Subject: Hey

i lost one of me oldest mates in a hit and run a year ago and it stil hurts. i lost my nan jus ova a month ago so i no how you feel loosin sum1 frm ur family n sum1 in a car crash. its hard i no but i keep finkin that my frend will b betta off ther coz she was such a gr8 person n i duno if u believe in god but i do n i think we wer only lent these gr8 peeps b4 he needed them bac. im sur he was a gr8 person and i rely feel for you. write back if ya want love gail

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hi tanya i am sorry 2 hear about the loss of your brother as i know how it feels because last year my brother was run over by a car and life just doesnt feel the same without him

Subject: tanks

thanks for your help and what you said, it means alot. I dont think ill ever be able to come to terms with my loss. My brother was like my best friend, and i told him everything. i dont no if i believe in god, but i believe that there is a place where we go, beleiving this has given me the hope that i will see my brother again, and you'll also be able to see your mate and nan, write back, luv tanya x

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hey, glad it helped. i've never talked about my problems but people kept telling me i should and i never belived it would help. now im talking to people about these things, especially on here were i dont feel like im so much of a pain because others are doing the same i feel so much better so dont stop doing it! i went through such a bad phrase after my friend died where i wanted to kill myself but now i dont feel like that, although i cant stop cutting myself. have you ever cut yourself or thought about it? write back love gail

Subject:i know

my younger sister, kelley, was killed in a car accident this past september...i am 21, she was 17, and i was closer to her than anyone in my family...

ive spent a long time ignoring what has happened, and trying not to deal with it, but it catches up to you...

i was talkin to someone about her the other day and i realized that i cant remember what she sounded like...i mean, i have pictures and all, but i try so hard to remember her voice, and i just cant, and it is tearing me apart...

i dont even know why i am writing this...maybe just to talk to someone who knows what i am going through, but i am absolutely devastated....

Subject:My brother died to

Around about 6 months ago, the phone rang and i went to answer it and it was for my nan. When she had finished she told my grandad that my 19 year old brother had gone into hospital from lossing controle and hitting a lampost on his 600cc yamaha blue R6 motherbike and 6am. All the family came over to my house and waited for ages and ages. It came to about 9.30 and we had a phone call saying that he had died. He had broken pelvice, lungs, bladder, done something to his heart and got blood n the brain. It really hurt knowing tha he has gone and still having to cry myself to sleep every night. I miss and love him so much that if someone had to die and not him i would take his place so that he could have the rest of his lovely life. He was the best brother any one could have ever asked for and leaving his 8 yr old, 11 yr old and 18 yr old brother and his 15 yr old sister (me). He was so helpful and every one loved and still does love him now. I no how u feel and if u need some1 2 tlk 2 i am here 4 u love sammie x~x~x

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Hi Sean, I'm sorry for the loss of your sister, I lost my big brother who was 22 and I understand how devastated you feel. I was so close to him, he always protected me and we had such a laugh together, now its just my parents and me and I feel really alone as he was my only sibling. When I see guys his age I can't understand why hes not here when others are, I mean he was totally healthy and suddenly we lost him without any warning due to a rare brain tumour that caused too much pressure in his brain. I know what you mean about not being able to remember certain things about her, I feel that with my brother too, but I realise its hard to remember anyones voice, if I had to think what my mum or dad sounded like I think I'd find that hard too so maybe its just hard to remember those sorts of things. I know not being able to really hurts though. You said you lost your sister in september, that is very recent, I wish you all the strength to get through because I know its so tough. Zoe x

Subject:hope

hi tanya im really sorry to hear about your loss but id like to comment on something you said in your second message about hope. hope is one of the most powerful emotions a human can feel. not powerful in the same way as love or hate but powerful because it can drive us. it gives us a reason to keep going. thats exactly what hope is. no matter how bad im feeling about losing my mum i think of something good thats happening or might be happening in the near future and it keeps me going. hope really can help.

Subject:My brother

Me and my brother were very close but i didnt realise how close until he passed away. My brother died on the 3rd of december last year at only 17 years old, he died from being invloved in car accident. He only passed his driving test 3 days before the car crash happened. Im only 15 years old and ive been through hell these fast couple of months. I just dont get why his life was took away at such a young age. I dont know what to do or think all the time. I just wish he would come back but i now what ever i do and say he will never come back. x