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Message from: leeann, 20 Dec 04

Subject: My mum drinks too much!

my dad died in june b4 he died my mum allready had a problem, it wasn't a major thing but wen she got drunk she got realli drunk my sis (now 18) has had to carry my mum to bed most night since bein about 13 because my dad was ill and not strong enough to do it. now he is gone n collettes grown up i have to live with it it is sooo much worse now, last week she sed my dad was tlkin to her in the front room n then she tried harming herself with a knife. it wudn't be so hard if i wern't on my own with her, my life is badly affected too and i no she loved my dad but she cant see tht we all did and tht we all miss him dearly! shud i get help? sum 1 tlk to me!

Subject: reply for leeann

hi, I know you posted your message a while ago now, but i have only just found out about this site.

I really feel for you, as i know it can't be easy seeing your mum this way. I don't think it's that your mum doesn't know or understand that it isn't only her feeling this way- it's that at the moment she can't see past her own pain of loosing someone so close to her. I suspect she's probably feeling the pain for you children loosing a father aswell.

I think you definately need to speak to someone about how your feeling, as it isn't going to help keeping it to yourself. Your going through enough without having to worry about your mum aswell, and i feel if you were to speak to someone outside of your home environment it may help. I wish you all the best.

clare
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