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Message from: sophie, 21 Oct 04

Subject: depressed about my dad's death

my dad died 2 years ago when i was 12. At the time i just blocked it out and tried to forget about it. but now i am fed up with blocking it because everyone else has. I have recently been talking to a connexions person, and i feel a bit better. But i just want to talk to someone who really no's what i am going through. It is so painfull and i miss my dad SoOoOoOo much that i cry all the time about it. My friends try to help but they have no idea how it feels and become uncomfortable and try to change the subject. I just want someone to talk to and relate with. :(

Subject:I know your pain

Hi
I know your pain and how you are feeling my dad died 5 years ago when I has 9 and I blocked it out until about a year ago when it finally hit me that he wasn't coming back and I have to live the rest of my life without him he was only 36. My mum has blocked him out so I had no-one to talk to. I found a way of coping however and that was looking at this website and I made a scrapbook of memories and photos of my dad which I keep on updating when I remember something we did. You have to remember that lots of your friends will not be able to begin to imagine the pain you are going through and they wont no wat to say. I found that with my friends. Can I ask how your dad died? message back and we can chat some more. love Hannah xxxx

Subject:(no subject)

My dad died because he was quite old and was just very ill, he had gone through so many operations in his life and the last one he had (just before he died) didn't go right, because after he was a different man. But looking back i think that all my family new something would go wrong so they handled the death better. But as for me, i just thought he would get through another operation and things would go back to normal. But sadly it didn't, and i think that's what shocked me the most :(
I hope you don't mind me asking, but how come your dad died so young?

Subject:dad

Hi i am so sorry about your dad I hop u dont mind me asking but how old was he? My dad died because well he had cancer but not inoperable and then he was shot and then the hospital gave him a drug and he had an allergic reaction and died the same day. How are you feelin at the moment? luv hannah

Subject:(no subject)

omg.. i am really sorry to hear about your dad. It must of been a huge shock!?. My dad was 69 when he died, so he was pretty old, but he was so strong. Im getting better at handling the pain, i just try not to think about it any more because it upsets me so much that i can't bare to! and im a more happier person when i don't. But i still have so many questions lingering in the back of my mind, and i don't think i am ready to face them yet. how are you feeling at the moment about your dads death? xxxxxxx

Subject: Hi

Hi I am finding my dads death quite hard at the moment because I have mocks at school and my step dad has been diagnosed with a terminal illness which is really rare so I am a bit sad. How are you and your mum coping. Tell me what questions you want to get the answers to about your dad I may be able to help. Love Hannah x

Subject:depressed about my dad's death

dont worry about it you will finally get over it but some of that pain will never go away my dad got cancer and died near 3 years ago but im only 13 best wishes luv cherryxxx

Subject: dad died too

my dad died too, last year when i was 14. This friday it's going to be a year since he died. I can really understand what you're saying, when my dad died everybody at school ignored me for the whole day, which made it even worse. It's comforting to know people are in the same position. I didn't live with my dad, but i did see him. He died of drug and alcohol abuse, but i have no problem with talking about it. I really feel for you! sometimes it's best to just talk about it to people and let all the feelings out, even if that sounds too cheesy!