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Message from: anya, 6 Oct 04

Subject: hell is other people

Im an orphan, having lost my dad when I was 15 and my mum when i was 19, both to cancer. I always thought my friends were really supportive as they were there at the funerals and when i was upset around then. Now (im 20) I feel like its all got too much and keep on crying at random and getting really depressed and no one understands. Today I ran away from the table when a programme about cancer came on and was crying in my room for hours and no one came to check on me.

I want to see a councellor but the last one i went to was really intimidating and completely didnt understand what i was saying.

I just really want to talk to someone who actually understands.

Subject:I know how it feels

Hi i know how you feel but i lost my dad when i was 9 years old and i lost my mum when i was 13 and am only 14 now but you lean to cope cos people will not always be able to supporte you am lucky i live with my sister and her boyfriend but i still got my boyfriend but it hard but your best trying to get on with live am alot younger and it hurts but i cope ok just try your best and good luck

Subject: I feel 4 u

Anya, I am so so sorry that you had to lose both your parents. And you were only 19. I feel it's so unfair that's not meant to happen until you're middle-aged. I lost my mum too also to cancer and I feel like you when programmes like that come on. I cry a lot too. She died in January of this year when I was 16 (I'm now 17). Try to cling on to the happy times and know that your parents would be so proud of u and willing u to carry on. You are really, really brave. I know that I don't know what it's like to loose both parents but I do know what it's like to loose the person closest to u in the world. I feel so much 4u lots of love 2 u and plse be brave and strong even tho it's so hard and always will be so hard.x

Subject:I will try 2 help

i dnt knw if i can help, nd i wil neva b able 2 say dat i fully understand wt u go thru, coz every1's experiences r diff! bt i wil try 2 help, if datz wt u want. My b/f died of a brain tumour earlier dis year, my gr8 auntie 2, nd i myself once had it! Cancer its such a horrible thing, nd who wud of thought it dat one word cud cause sooo much pain. Bt i completely understand wt ur sayin,i 2 randomly cry nd i hurt all da time. The pain neva goes away, bt slowly things get easier,bt der wil b times wen fings gt 2 much, or u jus ave a bad day. Bt do cry coz i believe dat it reli helps. Nd if u wana tlk bout anyfink i am here4 u! Keep ur chin up huni, nd learn dat u r nt alone x x x x

Subject:Help?

My dad died when I was 7, he was diabetic and my mum died in June, of colon cancer.(i'm 11 now) I broke down in school in Sept, and my friend told me NOT TO TIHNK ABOUT IT...but, how can I just forget my parets? I mean, even if they're dead, doesn't mean they're not THERE. friends can help to an extent, and so being on this site is helpful, you've got other ppl that actually DO know what you're talking about.