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Message from: Louisa, 04 Oct 04

Subject: A Lost Brother

I lost my brother four months ago and only now is it beginning to hit me. When it happened i didn't really come to terms with it, to be 19 and losing a brother at 13 is heartbreaking. I never thought it would happen to my family but you never do. Many people in the recent months have said "Forget about it" or "Cheer up" but they don't understand and it makes my blood boil. My brother was such an important part in our lives, he had severe cerebral palsy and it was a 24 hour job to care for him. I wondered if there was anyone in the same position? Losing someone leaves a big hole in your life as it is but its a bigger hole when you care for someone who depends solely on the people around them. I wondered if there was anyone in the same position? As disability can sometimes be a hard thing to understand.

Subject: i'm going thru it to

Hi , I know hoe you feel. My brother was 9 , he died 5 months ago now. I am 15. My brother waas disabled and he had something called Lesch Nyon Syndrome , it is very rare but as he was disabled he took a lot of caring and lookind after , now he is gone i feel like nobody needs or wants me anymore. do u feel the same? i know wot ure going thru !

Subject:brothers

That exactly how i feel. Last year on 12th of December my Brother died he was 21 and i am 12 he was so gergeous, It is only just begining to hit me. But you can talk to me if you need to because i know how it feels. I dont have anyone to talk to my friends because they would'nt understand they all live perfect lives!!!!!!!!!

Subject:Me too

My friends try to understand but it seems like it goes in one ear and out the other! They knew my brother Jordan abit, but will never fully understand because theyve never been there themselves. I feel like ive nothing to do when i come home, no noisy brother to see. Feel very empty at the moment, more than i did when it happened.

Subject:(no sujbect)

me 2. just want you to know i understand how painful it is too lose a brother, mine was 20 and i'm 19, i miss him so much and it gets harder everyday, i just wish i could have said goodbye, and you are right it is easy to say it to sumone who understands. his been gone just over 2months now...i miss him so much

Subject: my beautiful brother

I too know what you are all going through,I lost my younger brother Paul on 19th June 2003 aged 22 as a result of a car accident,being the youngest of 4 children we all treated him like our baby,they say life gets better, but for me it is getting more painfull every day,the pain i see my parents going through breaks my heart,I often wonder if it would be better for them if it had been me or my other brother and sister as we are all 10years+ older than Paul and had more time here than him,but then again I wish it didnt have to be anyone.I feel worse now,perphaps now all my kids are at school and having a bit of time on my hands,I tend to think more and more about him.I hate going to bed at night because i dont think its fair that i am in a warm bed and he is at the church in his grave.I have so much more i need to talk about but dont feel i need to burden my family as i am trying to be strong for them and listen to all their worries but dont feel they need to worry about me.Life is cruel.

Subject:I feel exactly the same

Hey Louisa. My sister also had severe Cerebral Palsy and also died when she was just 9 years old. That was 13 yrs ago. I was only 6 but it was the hardest thing I have ever had to cope with. We had all cared for her everyday bought the big house to put all her stuff in, my parents gave up their jobs, had all the wheelchair access fitted and then suddenly you dont need them anymore. Just take each day at a time and always remember the love your brother had for you, Because if I have learnt anything thru this it is that disabled people are the most loving people on Earth. Take Care. Lotsa Love xxx