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Message from: Chas, 2 Sept 04

Subject: Why?

My Dad died just over 2 years ago of a sudden heart attack. I went out one morning in June to come back to him gone. People say it becomes easier to cope, and i can see where they come from. I mean i have good days.. but my bad days seem to be really bad. When i have a bad day, i feel guilty that i have been happy, that i shouldnt be happy i fell guilty for going out and having a good time. N im forever scared to do things thinking " what would dad think.. i cant do that"... does n e one else feel like this? or is it just me? message bak chas x


Reply from:maria

Subject:reply to your mesage

hiya chas

I thought i would reply to your message because I feel the same i lost my mum 19 months ago now to a vey sudden brain hemorage. I know what you mean about the good days and the bad days and feeling guilty for being happy coz i feel like that to. But just coz your happy it doesnt mean you're not missin them. It will be there in your heart for the rest of your life and will never go away, but like you say people say it gets easier and i agree with you that it does and i am glad someone else feels the same as me.

Reply from:matt

Subject:abbie

hey there,
i am crushed to hear of your loss, i lossed my mum to cancer 9/8/04 and ur pain must be just as bad as mine, and i know how u feel bout people in skool not understanding, sometimes i envy them for it seems that they have a perfect life, no pain or sorrow, but then i realise that there is no reason to be envious, i was blessed with my mum and i couldnt have had a better mum and knowing that i had her, leaves no room for envy, for she is unnreplacable and unbeatable by any standards! im sure all goes the same for your family, they truly were wondeerful people, truth! like my mum and izzy's family, you were so lucky to have them, be thankful, and not regretful for the time u had with them, nothing is your fault, its just the world does some pretty screwed up things to us sometimes wich hurt us and make us regret things and makes us believe things were our fault, but your families love you and always will, no matter what you do, you will always be the most important thing to them, and they to you, remember that.
all love,
matt xxxxxxxx

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