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Message from: Sammy, 23 Aug 04

Subject: My grandad

My grandad died last month its as though ive only just relised that hes gone. at first i was relieved that he couldnt suffer anymore but now i miss him so much. one min im gald he cant suffer ne more but the next i want him back so badly. did ne 1 else feel like this?

Reply from:abbie

Subject:reply for 413

my grandad took it very very very hard after the dead of my mum,dad my 3 sisters and my 2 brothers they die on christmas 6 years in a car crase he was not eatin and then being very sick for years after then 2 years a go he when in to care and dead 4 weeks later i cry most night because i really miss them all the time but then i think they r all up there with eash other so they will be happy and i know they are look over me every day and want me to b happy lots of love from abbie xoxo

Reply from:Kate

Subject:Same!

My Granddad has just died of lung cancer and my nanna can not cope. I hate it. It is really bad sometimes.But I try to bottle it up which really does not help. Trust me.

Reply from: becky

Subject:ur not alone

hun ur not alone
my grandad died on 17th october 2003
i still cant belive hes gone i miss him so much and feel empty
its ok 2 feel how u do u just gotta pick urself up. i tryed 2 but i cant
whatever u do dont self harm, i do and i just cant stop dont mess up ur life like i have.

Reply from:Rachel

Subject: Your not alone

Hi my names Rachael , and my grandpa died last summer from stomach cancer. I didn't really consider my emotions at that time, but now i feel angry, upset and i sometimes feel great and the next day i don't. I thought i was the only one feeling this way but its reassuring to know that someone else feels the same. I know its hard but you have to try and put a brave face on it, this is taking me a while and i still haven't been able to do it but it should come someday. If you haven't spoke to any one about how your feeling you should do i mean, i couldn't tell my mum and dad about how i am feeling so i decided to speak to my headteacher at school he gave me adivce and tried to convince me to tell my mum, but he understood why i didn't want to tell her. He got in touch with the school nurse and she told me that the only way to get help is to tell my mum so she can ring someone up. This was a lie, and since then i have been on a website which helps you to control your emotions and speak to adivsors online. www.there4me.com You should try it. rachael

Reply from:courtney

Subject:hi

my grandma died of cancer

Reply from: chardonnay

Subject: ur not alone

hi my name is chardonnay my grandad died a year ago from lung cancer i realy need some1 to talk to because he was a realy important person to me luv from chardonnay xxx

Reply from: katie lou

Subject: sorry

hi hun u oj i lost my gandad as well i ant got no more gandads or nan i cant live like thas no me is u wanna ring back to me but my name as katie lou plz thank youxxxxxxxxxxx

Reply from: katie lou

Subject: every 1 i am so sorry to her about ur lost

hiya my name is katie lou i lost my gandadsss and my nanss i dont have no more nans now or no more gandads i reliy need sum 1 hu nos wot i am going thoe plz help me sum 1 plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz i reliy need ur help plzxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Reply from: matty

Subject: my grandad

my grandad died a year a go from a brain tumour and i feel sort of the same but i but i some times get really angry because i miss him so much

Reply from: Will

Subject: hiya Katie lou

my grandad died 2 years ago and it takes ages to be happy again but if u have somone there 4 u the weight become a little lighter and the more u talk the better it feels.

Reply from: belinda

Subject: i know how it is!

i know how it is. i lost my mum two grandads and a greatgrandad in the space of 2 years. i have no more nans or grandads...school life is soo hard ppl talk bout their mums and grandads all the time and although i like to talk about them i miss them so much...i was only 10 when this happened and i am now 13...could anyone talk to me? plzzzz xxx

Reply from: **katie**

Subject: will thinkz

i no u say just talk about it but iff i  do i just get up set and i dont like to get like that u no wot i mean any ways get bk to mi plz and i lot my nan 3 yeasr ago get bk toi mi plz ta xxx[x]bless[x]

Reply from: Xariah

Subject: Grandad

It's hard wen u loose someone. My grandad died in june 2006 of 4 different cancer's. He had skin cancer laukemmia throat cancer and last yr he got liver cancer. We were told he wouldn't be here this xmas but we didint believe it. He's always bounced bk from treatment but on my 18 this year he went really ill. Had it diagnosed on the brain and within 2 days he died in the hospice. It was awfull. It's the first person iv'e lost that i cant cope with. Iv'e only just realised that he's not coming bk and i dont no how to deal with it. This xmas will b so hard and i miss him so much. The pain is unbearable. I got caught pregnant 2 weeks after he died with his first grandchild which is wot hurts most of all.

Reply from: ryan

Subject: hey

hey my name is ryan

i no how u feel bcause my grandad died just bfore christmas in 2004 and my dad died in August 2004 and now my nana died in hospital on monday the 18th of december 2006 i found out about it on the same day after my school's talent show by the deputy head of care and i no its not fare on the people they love but thats life.

Reply from: (anon)

Subject: (no subject)

ur not alone,
my grandad died only a month ago and i can't believe he's gone. i can't believe. He's gone and i'll have to get used to a christmas with out him.

Reply from: sarah

Subject: (no subject)

my uncle died exactly a month ago today.....and this afternoon my grandad died. I feel so angry about it. I have to be strong for my little girl as Christmas is only a couple of days away. I feel like crap but i cant seem to cry. Ive gone numb. i feel like im on auto pilot and its not really real.

Reply from: Rebecca - July 31 2007

my grandad died recently and i tried to block it all out and actlike everything was fine. but when i was at the funeral doing a reading it hit me and i found it easier to talk to someone. my message to anyone who has lost a love one is dont bottle up your feelings. you only feel worse
Reply from: **KATIE LOU**
Subject: HIYA WILL.SORRY I DIDNT GET BK SOONER
HIYA WILL..
FANKZ FOR THE COOMENT IT HAS HELPED ME
I AM GETING A BIT BETTER.WELL I HOPE UR OKAII TOO..
COMMENT BACK IF U CAN X X X  XXX
Reply from: Hayleey
Subject: i know how u all feel..
i am totally new to this site but i have been through the same as what u have so i no exaclty how u feel.. sometimes i feel alone but i no that i have to talk about it because bottling it up dosent help.. my auntie uncle grandad and nan died of cancer in the same 2 years and i watched alll of it happen.. it was the worst ever and i have not got over it.. i miss them all so much esp my nan as i was holding her hand till the very last breathe.. none fo you are alone and its good to share things with other people who are going through the same felings as you. lots of love hayley xxxx
Reply from: Amy
Subject : I know how you feel
i lost my grandad  to cancer and it still is not easy and try not to bottle it up i did (am?) and it all came at once  and i thought i had to  be strong for my siblings so keep your chin up , keep the memoiries alive and, never forget how to laugh!!!!!!!! 
Reply from: hayleey
Subject : hello amy..
hi amy. i read your message and i thought it was really nice. try not to bottle things up because it makes the situation worse.. i might not think that it does becasue you may want to be strong but the more you keep inside your body wont be ableto cope. i bottled it up inside for ages and now i have depression and have to attend to a medical gym. its the worst feeling ever loosing someone to such a terbile ilness and watcing them kills you to but try to let everythink out and u wil feel a whole lot better.. remember keep your chin up and think of all the happy times u spent with your grandad ( i know its not easy).. lots of love hayleey xxx
Reply from: pixiedust
Subject : i felt exactly the same
I remember my mum coming in to tell me nan had died. I remembered feeling as though i knew before she told me, i was in denial for months before i accepted it. Then when i realised i cried myself to sleep for months. Five years have passed now and i have grown to accept that she is not here in body anymore. I know it sounds corny but i feel like she is with me sometimes. Ptting her hand on my shoulder in hard times to let me know she is there and patting me on the back to support me through good times. Cherish the memories and never let go of those x hold them tight in your heart and you'll never feel alone x

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