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Message from: Caroline, 18 Aug 04

Subject: I miss my dad too much

its been about 3 years since i lost my dad and i feel nobody undastnds the hurt im feelin. my friends dad recently died and hes gettin so much support from family and friends dat i didnt recieve and now im feelin jealous and i dnt wnt to feel lyke dat coz i should be a gud friend. plz help!

Subject:i no exactly how you feel

wot you are feeling is perfectly normal and not out of order in the slightest! my dad died 3 years ago too and it seems like people think im fine now as time has gone by but it still hurts so much and if my dad was to walk through the door now i no that things would feel exactly as it did the last time i saw him. thats the problem with grief it never goes away mainly because it is such a difficult thing to come to terms with the idea of never seeing a person you loved ever again. just try and be there for your friend and treat them in the smae way that you wish people had treated you when your dad first died. never feel guilty for feelin ignored and resentful just remeber that people who have not been through this can never understand what you go through on a daily basis. explain to them how your feeling and just remeber to never feel guilty for your emotions at the end of the day the way you have coped in your situation has made you the person you are today. you are coping and surviving and you would probably be surprise at how many people are proud of the way you have dealt with everything.

Subject:Loss of dad

Hi Caroline
My dad died just ova 5yrs ago & i'm not going to lie & say it gets easier. I still can feel like i did the day he died but i remember that less and remember the good times a little bit more,each and every day. The pain never goes away it just somehow becomed easier to deal with. You obviosly loved your dad very much & i'm sure he knows that.I bet he's by your side all the time, wishing he could ease your pain. Remember whereever he is he still loves you, death cannot break that cnnection.
Thinking of you.
Dtxx

Subject:my daddy

listen huni, i no its hard and people always tell me i shud b ova it but its 5 years new years day, i still cant cope. i have a serious problem with cutting myself and it helps the pain but not me. plz get sum help with it & it will get easier i promise good luck in life...

Subject: my daddy

heya hun plz plz plz keep ure chin up n hold ure head up high it helps things will soon start looking up 4 u i promise ive been thru it and my dad died died wen i was 7 on fathers day morning right infront ov me and all i still cant get ova it but jus consentrate on ure future and not ure past im 15 now and yeah my head might be a bit messed up but im getting there slowly plz plz try and move on (and i know its easier sed than dun) but hey its worth a try mwaaaaaahhhhhhh tc hunny xxxxxxxxxxxx ldz a luv lexi

Subject:Hunni i no how u feel

Hey ive been through it all too, my dad had cancer and every day i watched him get thinner and thinner and his hair falling out. it was awful and its been 3 years, and i no one understands how i feel but hunni just remember keep your chin up

Subject:I miss my Dad too

Im 13 and i lost my dad last friday n it was real bad coz it was 4 days before i started uppa skool.

Subject: I miss my dad too

My Dad died about 3 months ago & i'm not coping at all

i'd love to have someone to talk to that knows how i'm feeling
because to me it all seems so unreal

& i just keep wanting to mess myself up and stuff
x

Subject: i miss my daddy to

im in exactly the same situation as you. my best friend father got cancer and her dad survived it and i ger reli jelous! i know i should be a good friend but its something that you can't control. even though my dad died two years ago it is reli hard. nobody understands me and i get reli annoyed. i know how you feel and i hope people will understand you and dont keep thngs bottled up because i have and my feelings are coming ut bit by bit and it is harder. im here if you want to talk. good luck! xx