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Message from: Soph, 29 June 04

Subject: I Miss My Dad So Much it Hurts

Hi, my dad died in november and still now i am findin it hard to cope. i am findin it hard somedays to get out of bed. i cry wen i m at work, it is really affecting me. i dont no wat to do. help me please.

Subject:ur lost dad

i lost my dad in february and it hurts so much too darlin.i feel like im screaming and no one can hear me at all. i wish i could give you a big cuddle cos i totally understand your pain

Subject:Your dad

I'm so sorry that your Dad is gone. I lost my Dad to his own shotgun at the end of May. I'm freaking out. I feel like no one is alive that understands this. My sis is a state away, and I'm alone in this deep ocean of confusion and saddness. I don't know how you personally feel. But please know that I feel for you and your loss. Losing my Dad is so very very very horrible.

Subject:the pain will ease

I lost my dad sudddenly 5 years ago (1999) I felt exactly like you did - not wanting to get out of bed and for some time I didnt but then i realised that my dad wouldnt of wanted me to behave like this. You have to be brave and take up a hobby (maybe sport) to take up some of your spare time. I hope you feel better, you CAN get through this. love Hannah

Subject: i lost my dad 2

i lost my dad wen i was 5 years old and its stil hard 4 me now coz i rly miss him and the hardest thing is that never new my dad and he never saw me grow up i send all my love and keep ur head up and never feel ur alone coz there is always ppl 2 tlk 2
all my love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject:your not alone

hiya hunn i no exactly how u feel my dad recently dies of cancer n the worst thing about it was i had 2 watch him suffer he would sit there in his hospital bed lookin ever so skinny ....not bein able 2 eat not bein able 2 walk about places im sure u was close 2 your dad like i was i was always a daddy's little princess and and wen i was told i freaked out bad style ...he died whilst i was in my french lesson at school and i could neva seem 2 walk back into that same classroom at the time that it happened (2:30)...theres no need to worry ur not alone u may do the same as me wen im in bed i look at his picture on my bedside table n begin 2 cry just remember all the fun things you did together and that he loved you dearly you may get upset but sometimes you feel so much better ....i always do! xxxxx

Subject:ur not alone

Dear Soph,
ur not alone beacause I have also lost my dad. He died of a major heart attack. I am so very sorry to hear about your dad. If u write back please tell me how he died as u don't say in the message.
From
Ryan

Subject:Hi Ryan

Hi, well it a really long story but here goes. He had a minor stroke two years ago, they found out he had a irregular heart beat, tried to get it back into rhythm. then after more tests they found out he had a virus that attacked his heart and it was severly weakened. one day he went upstairs for a sleep and he died during his sleep. his heart stopped. I was at uni wen it happened. it is coming up for a year now and i still have trouble comin to terms. how long ago did ur dad die, was he young? please write back

Subject:i feel 4 u

hey, i no exactly how u feel my dad died 5 years ago nearly but it hasnt got ne easier i miss him with all my heart n just want a big hug off him. i send a big cuddly with dis message as i no how u feel xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: my dad was my best friend

since my dad past away i feel like i have no body, it onli happened in june and still feels raw! i wish the pain wud ease, sum times i cant pull myself out of bed n other times i realise i cant even remember the last time i had a bath i forget to look after myself because i dont care about myself n e more. i feel like every 1 hates me or jus feels sorry 4 me! wish tht i didn't feel like this! am i the only 1

Subject:Life without dad

Hey, my dad died in november from a massive heart attack he was gone so suddenly its very hard to accept. He was only 47 and way to young to die, I get upset all the time andd am always in a bad humour. people tell me it will get easier but I just cant see that. what will i do without my Dad

Subject:Ditto

I feel exactly the same. My dad died October 27th and i can't move on. If you feel low why don't you listen to a song that he liked, thats what i do or why not try and think about the good times rather than the bad.

Subject: I feel sorry 4 u

Hi, im 12 and I too hav lost my dad, he died 10 years ago in january, and have never known how it felt to have one,Id kept it bottled up so long that i missed him, i burst out in tears 4 an hour or 2 at least. I really cant imagine how sad you guys must feel, having your dads die recently.You guys may not get this coz you know a life with a dad, but i always hear people talking about how gr8 their dads R,i just feel so sad, jealous,lots of emotions coz i never knew him and had a man to do cool stuff with

Subject: i'm empty

my dad died 7 months ago and im only 10. it feels like i am empty. when i was told that he passed away i just went into a world of my own where there was no one else there that i could talk to or no one who could understand me so i know how you feel. please give me some advice as how to cope coz i am way to young for this to have just happened. i sometimes dont even want to go to school and i freak out @ school and none of my friends seem to care they just think "it's not my dad thats not here its hers so whats it got to do with me" and i just feel that he is going to come and hug me and calm me down but he doesnt- please help thanks

Subject: Reply

Elo, i lost my Dad 2 in July 2004 he was in a motorbike accident, wen it first apened i was jus in total shock n neva wanted 2 go 2 skool n i no ow u feel that no one seems 2 care. Stil now like nearly 2 yrs on i dnt tlk 2 any1 bout it. There's no advice 2 giv realy u jus gota do wots best 4 u n deal wiv it in a way that u can. Its a horrible fing 2 av 2 go thru, im stil in shock i stil cnt believe its apened bt i jus cope cz if i dnt i no i wil get 2 a very bad low n jus fink ur dad wil want u 2 b happy same as mine always did so jus try n hold ur head up high cuz u wil c ur Dad agen 1 day thats wot i believe neway, take care hun hope its helped xxx

Subject: i lost my dad

i lost my dad 1 week ago and im only 11 i mis him so much and all i want 2 do is hug him again can anyone help 2 ease the pain?

Subject: coping with loss

I am so sorry that your dad died- try and let yourself feel the pain, dont fight it, but also try and remember that he is not suffering any more, he loved you and he is still looking after you. With much sympathy - I have been there too (10 months ago my dad died)

Subject: thanx

hi soph

its me again my dad died in august 2004 of a major heart attack and i'm writing bac to say thanx for ur story u sent me if u want to talk some more heres my email address(Sorry Ryan because of safety & confidentiality we don't post people's personal e-mail addresses, hope you can understand why we have to do this, all the best RD4U)

ur friend ryan