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Message from: Margaret, 23 June 04

Subject: My Mum

I lost my mum 3 years ago and when she passed away, I felt like part of me died with her.I can't believe that she is no longer around.Im trying to learn to deal with her death but even 3 years later,im still grieving. What makes me really upset is that she survived breast cancer,and I thought that nothing else could happen to her. She had suffered enough but then her life was completely taken away from her. Four years later my brother found my mum lying dead on our kitchen floor, she had suffered from a huge brain haemorrhage.What I can't get over is that fact that I had only spoken to her an hour before.I used to think that death was something that I would never have to experience as a young person and certainly not to my mum.I will never forget my mum, she was my best friend and someone I loved with all my heart.I hope she is safe is heaven now away from all the pain,I miss you mum, all my love m xx

Subject:You just said it all!

I can't even start to imagine what it must be like to loose your mother, but you need to know thatby feeling that part of you has also died is normal. I believe that we all give some part of our life to a person, whether that be mother, father, sister, brother, friend etc... So it is natural to feel like when they have gone that that particular part of you has gone as well. Please don't feel like this has happened, just because someone leaves you in body, does not mean they have left you in spirit. You spoke to her in your message so subconciously you know she's still there, otherwise you wouldn't have spoke directly to her!

Sometimes letting things go is such a good thing as it helps you to release all those things that are stopping you from moving on. Keep a diary, or write them on here when you need help, but remember we know roughly what you are going through!

Lots of love Erika x