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Message from: Piers, 14 June 04

Subject: Once bad luck always bad luck

Hi im piers and my dad died when i was 8 in 2000 and i still cant handle it seeing all my friends with there dads and stuff, but my luck gets worse.When i was 18 months old i got thiis rare disease that means that i have to go to the hospital every 3 weeks probably for the rest of my life!!! I've got the best mum ever and she is so supportive and I thank her but i just cant handle the fact that I wont see my dad again. CAN ANYONE HELP? please

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never feel ur alone the best thing u can do is 2 alwasy remember the good times you had with your dad and never ever 4get that he is with u in ur heart but u must b a very strong person and i admire that i lost my dad wen i was very young n i dnt have many memories n i wish i had but i no hes stil with me but i do admire u and i wish u all the luck in the world if u want 2 tlk just reply xxxxxxx

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i no its rly hard but justhavin a dad doesnt mean ur anydifferent and u should think obout wot u hav u mum would b proud of u and never 4 get shes with u in ur heart keep strong xxxx

Subject: I think this message got mixed up with Piers.

Anyway, if this was supposed to be a message about what to say at a funeral I will say something even though I didnt know what your message was. Sorry if this is totally irrelevant!

Anyway, I spoke at my best friend Lizzies funeral and my Mum gave me some advice. Keep it light hearted.... remember the person how they would want to be remembered. Probally the best way to do this is to have a few funny storied which show the person in thier character. Then just comment on what they meant to you.

Just try to speak and remember that person for thier best qualities. Its a very hard thing to do but I am sure you will be fine.

Sorry if I replied to the worng message.

Lucy.

Subject:Your Dad

Hi Piers
Well, I stumbled on this site and read your message, decided to reply.
I'm a little older than you (and your mum come to that!)and seen a bit, got a wife who has MS, but life is not all a downer.
My dad passed away 24 years ago, and I still miss him helluva lot.
There is no set answer - I think that the solution to some extent is to accept what has happened 'cause theres no other way around it. I hurts, but what can we do? We can remember with affection, and in a way that keeps 'em alive in our hearts, and we talk about 'em and think about 'em, and really as long as you feel that way they are still with us.
As for your illness, well, its easy enough for me to say, but if your gonna be ill theres never been a better time, with all the greatly enhanced treatments that are around. Progression for so many things is just around the corner - look at the way people are surviving now with illnesses which would have laid 'em out 20 years ago. There is always hope - never, but never give up - your dad wouldn't wish to see you like this I'm sure, and there are good things around, its just that we can't see the wood for the trees at times.
Stay cool and best wishes.
George