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Message from: Laura-Jane - 23 Mar 04

Subject: Re: my dad

I lost my dad on thursday 11th.. and it just doesnt seem to be sinkin in... i mean i think i dont want it to sink in.. is that wrong? I'm tryin to stay strong as i dont wanna upset ne of my family for what i say.. i jus need advice.. Iv never lost ne one b4 then the first person who dies.. he is the closest man to me.. Love Laura-jane

Subject: hiya

i no wot ure goin thru. my dad died a yr ago n it took time 2 sink in - infact it took quite a long time. mainly bcoz i didnt want 2 think he wasnt comin bk. its not bad that it hasnt settled in yet after all it hasnt been long. i cant tlk 2 my family or my friends about my dad u need 2 find some who u trust, afterall its better 2 let ure feelins out then keep them inside.
if u ever need sum1 2 tlk 2 im always here 2 listen
Luv Nicky xXx

Subject: hi ya

sorry to hear about ur dad, do u mind if i ask wot he died of? i know the feeling about not wanting it to sink in and no its not wrong its natural. i lost my mum just ova a year ago and she was the 1st person i've lost and the one i was closer to and i miss her. if u cant talk to ur family and want someone to talk to then u can always talk to me. all ur family are probably feeling the same in the respect no one wants to talk bcause they might upset others but try to chat and laugh about the good things that might help.

well take care laura - jane
and im here if u wanna chat

marie x

Subject:re

hank you for both of you messages.. and one day I will love to chat.. its 3 weeks on now and i still feel no different.. no emotion.. i jus feel blank.. My dad died in his sleep.. he had previous heart conditions and he jus died whilst asleep in his chair (that was for the benefit of marie as she asked) It was such a shock and I was the one who found him.. I think thats Y I feel so numb...x

Subject: Your Dad

Hi Hunny, I know it's hard for you and although people tell you to, don't be strong if you don't have to be. let the tears come out. I lost my Dad and it really does get better with time. Tyr and distract yourself with friends and HAPPY DVD's. Use the family you have left and talk through things about your dad, never feel embarassed to talk about him.