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Message from: Ryan - 23 Feb 04

Subject: i can't believe it

i can't come to terms with the fact that my dad as gone he was only 35. i sumtimes think it is my fault because i used 2 get into alot of trouble. i need some1 2 talk 2 please reply
Ryanxxx

Subject: so sorry

hi i am really sorry to hear about ur dad, i lost my little brother and am completely lost and heartbroken i know how u feel in a way because i dont really have any relationship with my dad and in a way it feels as though i have lost him too but honestly dont blame ur self it wasnt ur fault we all do things we regret but u cant change the past and im sure he loved you.

Subject: Ryan

Hi Ryan,

What happened? why do you blame yourself? Its common for people to do that but you have to remember some things are out of individual control... write back and i'll help as much as i can

Subject: my dads gone too

hi ryan. I lost my dad 2 weeks ago in a terrible heartbreaking way. I don't know what to do or say. I had a strange relationship with my dad- sometimes we would be fine others we wouldnt. I didnt live with my dad but i loved him so much. It hurts! I'm glad that i can now talk to people who are suffering the same and similar traumas. Don't feel that you are in anyway to blame. Guilt is an awful thing that eats you up inside. Im guilty that i never saw my dad enough and its the worse thing in the world. please write back.
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Subject: thanx

thanx calv i really appreciate it!im so sorry about your brother i wouldn't be able to live if i lost my little brother.
Ryan

Subject: (no subject)

Hi, im really sorry about your dad it hurts really bad if u need to talk just write back and i will help if i can
Ryanxxx

Subject: how u doing

Hey Ryan just thought i would see how ur doing now hope ur ok i know its not easy no one knows that better than me but talking to people that arent connected can help dont u think. cheers

Subject: (no subject)

i was doin ok until yesterday. my granddad is in hospital and the doctors have said he has only got a couple of days left if that.
thanx 4 replying
Ryan

Subject: sorry

hi really sorry to hear about ur grandad i lost my grandmother in december and that funeral was my 19 funeral in 4 years, i know it feels that someone is testing u but believe u me just get up and fight back but i wont be 2 faced because im not sure how many more tests i can take but i am here if u wanna talk there arent many guys r age to talk too. c ya

Subject:message to calv

u no that my grandad was ill dont u well now he is dead he died on tha 12th march but i couldnt get on the web to tell any1 write back plz
ryan

Subject:i know wat its like

i lost my dad its hard 2 belive he is gone afta 5 yrs this boxin day its not a easy thing 2 get ova i know my dad was 42 not that old and he was very healthy it was out of the blu the last vision i have of him is him unconcious on the floor if u need to talk or anything wb i understand what you are goin through xxxx amz

Subject:Hey Ryan

So sory to hear about ur loss, it must be hard and seems as if the world is kicking u whilst ur down but we're here if u wanna talk, i've been away a while trying to sort stuff out but it didnt work, it was worth a try tho, hope ur ok c ya

Subject:Calv

How ya doin? sorry i ain't been on the web. iv been busy wid exams and coursework, iv moved house too i live with my friend and his family. it was my 16th birthday last month and i felt so lonley and so alone. rite bak plz Calv, it would begrea to hear from you!

Subject: Calv

Good to hear from you too. i was wondering were you disapeard off to! hows things? iv moved house again too! Write bck if possible

Subject: Ryan I know how u feel

hey ryan, my dad died 3 years ago when i was 10, every day i watched him get thinner and thinner while his hair falling out. i didnt expect him to die so soon and i cant even remember the last thing i said to him but i know ill always love him. you have to keep your chin high and tell people how you feel, its better then keeping your feelings locked up. have a nice life hunni love marissa xxxxx

Subject: so sorry

hello my name is ryan too

some people may think death is all one joke but it is not a joke it is very really i know bcause my dad died in August 2004.