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message no. 2447
| From: Lucie |
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My Dad called and told my mum that my grandma had passed away. When she told me I felt angry and couldn't stop crying. I was told she had a heart attack and no one expected it. All I could think of was the pain she must have felt. I closed my curtains and lay on my bed listening to my music, still crying. It had been my Mum's and step-dads wedding only the week before and I was going to visit grandma with the photos the next day. I used to visit her basically every day...feels weird.
I keep thinking that she is still in the home and that I could always visit her but there is something saying I can't. I keep thinking to myself that she is still alive, even thought I know she isn't. So I haven't been sad, just shock, but it just feels she is away or something and I can see her soon. But I can't and it hurts. I want to know how to get over the stage of denial in the grieving process so I can remember her properly and say a meaningful goodbye, because if I say it now, it's said with the thought of, she is still here so it will be okay...
Does anyone have any suggestions of how to get past denial? I love her and want this thought to go away so I can say goodbye and mean it.
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| Reply from: Danielle |
Subject : mum
hi lucie i am 14 my mum died when i was 11 and im now 14 her anniversary has just recently come around it was 19th may .when i got told my mum died i just sat their and could not believe my ears .my mum was my family my only family.i was mums career .i have dreams about mum then i will wake up and call mum and then relice she is not here so it hurts .you will never say a proper good bye because they have not fully gone they are still in your head .you just need to talk to people tell them how you are feeling be around friends make sure you go out and have a laugh you feel you dont deserve it but you should go out and have fun it will make you feel good .try and remember the good times about your grandma .im sure she would want you to be happy and live your life with a smile because i know that is what my mum would want .we have to fight this pain look for things to look foward to in your life like going out with friends or listning to your music just do the things that make you smile and remember your gran and in time when you have open up to people and talk you will relice you have accepted she has gone
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