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Message from: danni - 18 Dec 03

Subject: (no subject)

My little siter died last xmas. She got hit by a car,i feel like its my fault. I was in a mood cos she got a new bike 4 xmas, so she and my mum went out to buy me something nice to cheer me up. Then she got hit by a car she was only 7.

Reply from: Alexis - 22 Dec 03

Subject: Christmas

Hi Danni,
I'm sorry to hear about your sister. I can understand how you must feel responsible but I'm sure your sister wouldn't want you to be feeling guilty about it. I bet you're not looking forward to christmas at all this year, but the bottom line is it's only one day, in the end.

Both of my parents have died and I'm a bit scared of christmas, to be honest. I'm just going to take one day at a time and try to keep smiling. I reckon I will spend some time on here over christmas because, I feel, it really makes a difference knowing you're not alone and I could do with some of that this time of year!

I hope this message has been of some help to you; I'd be happy to keep writing if you feel like sending a reply.

Take care

Reply from: citizen x - 22 Dec 03

Subject: (no subject)

hey danni.sorry to hear about your loss,it must be a very hard time for you with xmas coming up again.i know its pretty easy for me to say but you shouldnt blame yourself,ok it might seem like your fault but these things sometimes happen.perhaps it might help you to write a letter to your sister just to say somethings that you might have wanted to say but didnt get the chance.i'm sure your sister doesnt blame you.take care.write back if you feel the need.merry xmas

Reply from: Nicky - 22 Dec 03

Subject: (no subject)

First i want to say how sorry i was to hear about ure sister. BUT it wasn't ure fault she died there was no way u could av known what was going to happen 2 her - it was a horrible accident n it could av just as easily happened to sum 1 else, she was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. So it wasn't ure fault n i hope sum time soon ull realize that ure not the 1 2 blame for her death. but until then i'm here 2 tlk n 2 listen. i hope u reply. Luv Nicky x.

Reply from: Lianne - 22 Dec 03

Subject: (no subject)

Hi Danni, i'm sorry 2 hear abt ur sister, it must b heart breakin 4 u. If u want sum1 2 tlk 2 u can tlk 2 me.
luv lianne x

Reply from: danni - 24 Dec 03

Subject: xmas

thankyou everyone who replied, its easy to forget other people are hurting like me. I think you are rite it wasnt my fault realy it hapened,its just at this time of year i think about it so much. I know xmas is just another day but you want it to be special and be together as a family. Does anyone have any ideas on how to make xmas not as unhappy?

Reply from: anne - 29 Dec 03

Subject: make da most of it

think positive and think of da good side of xmas, i find xmas hard too cuz im depressed.

luv ya,

Reply from: Nicky - 05 Jan 04

Subject: (no subject)

I'm glad 2 hear ure not blaming ure self as much now.
My dad died in march (itz comin up 2 10 months) of a heart attack. I thought this christmas was going to be horrible n i didnt want it to happen, but it wasnt as bad i thought it would b. How was ure xmas? I missed him alot but in time i'll remember all the gud things we did at xmas n u will 2. I'm still here if u need 2 tlk
Luv Nicky xXx.

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