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Message from: Nicky - 11 Dec 03

Subject: Christmas

My dad died 9 months ago of a major heartattack, all my friends are excited about christmas, but i'm dreading it. coz itz gonna b strange n upsetting not havin him there, also my mum is going to be really upset, and i'm gonna feel guilty because my dad made a big deal of christmas and got my mum loads of expensive presents - i feel like i'm going to let her down

Subject: Christmas

Losing someone you love at a spiechel time is difficult, if i were you i would use that time to treasure the memories of that person, and do your best for your mum, I may have never known ur family but i am sure your Father wouldnt want you to be sad at a time he cherished

Subject: christmas

I understand how you feel. This year I just wish christmas wasn't happening. I'm not happy an just feel down when other ppl are talking about how excited they are about christmas. I didn't lose a family member, I lost my boyfriend. I was talking to his sister and she said that her and her parents are celebrating christmas differently because it would upset them too much to do it normally and not have him there. It would hurt them so much to see the empty seat at the table! I feel so sorry for them and that is how I feel for you. If you just try to stay strong I'm sure that would be a great help to your mum. Just think of all the good christmas times you all had together and I'm sure it will help you through the day! Take care xxx

Subject: same here

Hi Nicky, i know wot u r going thru. My dad died nine months ago as well, he had cancer. My dad always used 2 make a big deal ov xmas and i was always happy. This xmas is going 2 b upsetting. If u want sumbody 2 tlk 2 u can tlk 2 me. :-)

Subject: Thanx

Thanx 4 taking the time 2 reply 2 my message.
Allen i know ure right bout him wanting me 2 av a gud christmas but it seems easier said the done - but i'll try.
Jemma i was so sorry 2 hear bout ure loss i bet it's really hard n u miss him loads.
Lianne i was sorry 2 hear bout ure dad n i understand how it's gonna be hard 4 u this christmas coz theres gonna be 1 space empty at the table. But if u ever want to tlk then i'll be hear 2 listen.
Thanx again 4 taking the time 2 reply n i hope u av time 2 read this. Thanx Luv Nicky xXx.

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