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| Message from: Carrie |
| Subject : Please help me
My dad died yesterday and I don't know how to cope. I don't want to cry because I know that if I start I'll never stop. It just doesn't seem real. I keep expecting him to show up and say something stupid like "why are you all upset" but I know its never going to happen.
I keep thinking stupid things like how he won't walk me down the isle when I get married, and he'll never see my kids.
I just need someone to help me cope with it all.
Please.
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| Reply from: Laura |
Subject : Coping
I can emphaphise with your situation, my Dad died 2 and a half years ago and it was very unexpected. We all went into denial for quite a long time as if it had never happened but it does sink in eventually and although when it does it is horrible believe me over time things to do get better. Make sure you speak to people - whoever you can- family, friends even a counsellor as you need to get the feelings out. Also remember that your Dad would always want you to be happy even if it may not feel like you should be. Thinking of you at this awful time.
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| Reply from: Sophie |
Subject : your not alone...
my dad died on the 5th june 08 and i miss him so much, but i cannot accept he is gone as he was in hospital for 2 weeks beforehand and i think that i had got used to him being away from home. do you want to chat further as its such a comfort knowing that someone else is going through the same thing
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| Reply from: sarah |
Subject : my dad died 2
I know exactly how you feel because my dad died just a few days ago. It not feeling real is part of the grieving process, and you've just got to keep reminding yourself that it is. Never be afraid to cry, and it's best not to do it alone. Get you're mum to cuddle you or something. Keep talking; it's a good remedy, and talking to people who didn't know him or your relationship with him are a good source of help.
Don't be afraid to feel numb, in disbelief, angry, guilty, upset, alone, tired of it all... they and many more are all emotions that are part of grieving. Let them flow in and out, accept what they are, and talk about them. Good luck hun... YOU ARE NOT ALONE xxxxx
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