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| Message from: lucyxx07xx |
| Subject : my grandad died
my grandad died around 4 months ago now and i got the fone call early in the morning and the pain hits me every second of every day i dont really know how this happened to us 6 months before he became il we had a perfect happy family no money problems no arguing good health then this hit us and he left us he was my ultimate best freind and i cant see a life without him now theres arguing all the time sadness, money fights my family is just breaking apart when we should be at are strongest for each other i feel so alone like i have no one i feel like the only way i can see him if i cant have him back is to go with him might seem selfish to some but i feel so low i cant be the strong one for everybody to cry to and not cry back i need to cry i need my grandad i miss and love him so much i cant sleep i have knightmares does anyone have any advice on how i can cope with this thanks all xx
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| Reply from: Kat |
Subject : my grandad died
I lost my grandpa 7 months ago.
Whilst the initial pain has subsided, i still feel just as upset/angry/guilty as i did when he died.
What makes it worse was that i never got the chance to say goodbye and this breaks my heart everytime i think about it.
I wont say 'i know what you're going thru', cause i know its different for every1. What i will say is that i understand how you feel and how much it hurts. I go through cycles where sumtimes i almost forget whats happened and then times where i feel utterly alone and depressed.
I also understand that you feel as though your family is falling apart. One member of my family put my grandpa through an awful lot of stress b4 he died and i cannot help bt partially blame them for his death. They're starting to do the same thing to my grandma bt i cant say anything cuz no1 will let me.
I know the grief will subside eventually and i know that i wont ever forget him but knowing these things and achieving them are very different things altogether.
I am very sorry for your loss and i hope you and your family make it through this difficult time. Talking really does help or writing your feelings down if you dont have any1 to talk to.
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| Reply from: Bex |
Subject : Coping
I have tried writing down all the horrible things i think like how angry i am chris died and cruel it is my kids dont have a dad and it honestly does help to get it out. But it does sometimes focus on the bad too much so i make sure i always write down something good thats happened today before bed. That way i can see there is still some good in the world. Even something little like managing to put your washing away can seen huge when your grieving.
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