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Message from: josh - 05 Nov 03

Subject: is there life after death

Every person who gets close 2me dies. my grandad died, then my nan, after tht my aunty and my other nan who died on my b-day.my first eva death i had 2go n c was my great nanny what i cant remember. is it just me but every 1dies when they no me. i fill depressed about this all happenin. can it b helped or not. plz sum1 message me. thanks

Subject: Loss

Hi Josh,
It sounds like you've had so much grief to deal with, no wonder you have been struggling with your feelings!

After reading your message I was wondering whether you are experiencin feelings of guilt? It sounds like you are feelin responsible because so many people you know have died. I can appreciate why you might feel that way, having lost so many people close to you; it must have been especially hard for you when your nan died on your birthday.

I don't think that your relatives deaths are related to one another and I don't think their deaths are in any way related to you but I can see that it must feel like they are.

I'd like to reassure you that many of us who use this board have expressed feelings of helplessness after a loved one has died and I hope that can help you feel that you're not alone. If you would like to msg again and talk about how you're feelin, I'd be happy to answer. I check this board most days anyway.
Take care of yourself Josh.

Love
Alexis
xx

Subject: its sooooooooooo hard

hey there,
my aunty who died had a ova doss of her boyfiends insullin n she i think died da next day i think. i dnt no wht 2do alexis. its sooooooooooooooooooo hard. every nite im up cryin n i dnt no wht 2do. wht should i do? plz tell me.

thanks

luv Josh x x x x x

Subject: Josh

Hi Josh,
I'm really sorry things are so difficult for you right now. I wish I could tell you what to do to make everything better but I can't. There is no perfect solution for any of us who are grieving.

I can only suggest that you keep talkin about how you're feelin. I do understand how awful you must feel, like there's no way out and it will never get better, but it can if you hang in there.

I know it might all seem a bit overwhelming but I want you to know I'm here for you. Use me as a sounding board; if you feel angry tell me; and if you feel sad too. Anything you want to say, Josh, I'll be here to listen.

I hope you know that you're not alone, and if I can, I will help you to feel better. Take care. Look forward to hearing from you soon.

Love
Alexis
xxxxxx

Subject: im annoyed wiv my mum

hi there Alexis
im really mad at my mum. she dnt wnt let me out of da house coz she thinks im goin 2mix wiv da wrong ppl. it gets on my nervous. y is this? but she is in her boyfriends house all da time. n she mounds at me coz i drink alot but she buys choc 4her boyfriend. i dnt no wht 2do.

write bck plz.
Luv Josh x x x x

Subject: Josh

Dear Josh,
Sorry it's taken a while for me to reply.

It sounds like you aren't getting on too well with your mum right now, I'm sorry to hear that, it must be difficult.

I can understand you being angry with your mum 'cos it sounds like you feel that you need to do your own thing but your mum is stopping you from doing that. Have you had the chance to ask her about her reasons? Maybe she's feeling concerned because you've been quite down lately.

I'm wonderin how old you are Josh? It's just that when you say you drink quite a lot, I find that a bit worrying, do you mean alcohol? If it is, I'm not sure you can compare buying booze and buying chocolate! Maybe we could talk some more about that?

Anyway, I hope you're feelin ok at the moment. Message back soon, if you can.

Love
Alexis
xxxxxx

Subject: HELP

Hi there Alexis,
No its jst normal drink like cola or 7up. it gets on my legs. y does she do this. she buys he boyfriend stuff but whn sum1 else cums n ask her stuff she says no. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. Its annoyin. I walked out of my house da other day n no 1 txted or foned me 2c if i was alrite. sum1 else txted her sayin i was there. wht should I do? plz help me. i dnt fill stable ne more. write bck soon. Im 17 n she dnt let, me do wht i wnt 2do.

luv Josh
x x x x

Subject: Josh

Hi Josh,
I'm glad to hear you were talkin bout soft drinks; I can see, now, how you might compare your mum buying chocolate for her boyfriend but no drinks for you. It sounds like you're feelin really left out and on your own at the moment. It must be really difficult for you especially as you've been feeling quite depressed recently anyway.

I wonder whether you've had the chance to talk to your mum about your feelings? Sometimes, if we can bring things up for discussion in an adult way then we are more likely to be heard like an adult, if you know what I mean.

I'm noticing, from your messages, that maybe you don't have a good relationship with your mums boyfriend, is that right? What's he like? How long has your mum been seeing her boyfriend? Do you see much of him? I hope you don't mind me askin these questions. I look forward to hearing from you soon.

Love
Alexis
xxxxx

Subject:Sorry

Happly 2 say u get a 2nd chance in heaven. :-)

Subject: hi josh

Hi me again. Did or didn't my words help u.
I realy hope they did. Because i like hearing that people are happy. Because it makes me want to be happy. And i think every one should have the right to be happy even you!
Hope my words helped.
Happiness from Kiara
P.S Remember 2 keep :-)(Smilin)