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Message from: Stru - 26 Oct 03

Subject: My Bro died!

Hi. Ok so this is new for me. Quite weird at this point but ill give it a go.
My Bro died on the 2nd August 2003, he dies ina car crash, but we later found out that he had a heart condition, called obstructive cardiomyopathy! it pained us all, but i dont seem to be showing the "normal" signs of berievement? wots wrong with me? if anyone else has gone through similar circumstances please reply, im worried that it'll hurt me or some one close to me in the future. thanks for readin this.

Subject: hi

hi. my little brother died on the 29th of August this year, he was only 6. he was killed in a freak accident. there is no normal way of acting after somebody has died. everybody reacts in totally different ways. your probably still in a state of shock and unable to accept what has happened. have you tried talking to anybody because that can be helpful. all i can say is that it is going to take a long long time before things are 'normal'. good luck and never give up. x x x

Subject: im sorry

hay im sorry 2 hear bout ur bro. my sister died on the 26 july 2002.she got hit by a car whilst she was on her bike. wat ur going through s completly normal. its bin a year since the death of my sis & it still hasn't really sunk in. i still get really angry but the best thing 2 do is not 2 take ur anger out on any1, i lost most of my friend cause i took it out on them. if u ever wanna talk im on here 1 or 2 a week so just leave me a message. XhayleyX

Subject: Stru

Hi,

I'm not sure what you mean by "normal" signs of bereavement. Everyone grieves in different ways. Some cry openly right from the start and want to talk about it all, others will chose not to cry, not to talk and to keep it inside.
I think the main thing with bereavement is being able to talk to someone about your loss. That way the hurt doesn't stay bottled up and causing more heartache as you have nowhere to vent your pain. There is not set way for people to grieve, what ever you do is normal for you so don't worry about it.
I lost my brother in a road accident in August 2000, so I can relate to a level what you are going through, if you want to talk jst reply.

Amy.x

Subject: stru

hi
my little brother died on the 29th august. my family says that i need to show my feeling more i cant keep them bottled up. i cant grieve coz it still hasnt hit me proply. i keep expectin him to come a wake me up early on weekends or come runnin up to the front door wen he comes home from skool. sometimes it just hits me and i get really depressd and cant talk 2 any1.
there isnt any propa way to grieve aslong as ur dealin with it thats all you can do.
im here if you need to talk.
take care,
Nikki x x x

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