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Message from: Connie, 18 Oct 2007

Subject : my brother
i lost my brother on the 20th sept 2007 he was only here 4 a week and i need sumone who understands what im going through. thanksxxx

Subject: i feel it
hi hon, 
i am so sorry, and if i cud take away the pain and hurt being felt by you and your fanily believe me i would. i lost a baby, he was called dylan, he had only been here for a short while the same as yours. unlike you i was not his sister, i am his mum. my other son and i have felt all types of emotions from when it first happened 5 years ago. however, it is only recently i have really come to understand how an older brother/sister feels when this happens. you are likely to go through very similar if not the same emotions as your parents. some older siblings feel guilt, or like they have to look after their parents ect please reply, or if not make sure you talk your feelings through with somebody, could be a teacher or a friend, relative or counsellor as this really does help. people say time is a great healer? it does become less painful as time goes on, all my best caz