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Message from: JESS - 06 Oct 03

Subject: NO1 CARES

NO1 CARES

Subject: For Jess

Hi Jess,
We are sorry that you feel that nobody cares because no-one has replied to your message. You have obviously been through a great deal and are having difficult feelings. Some people sometimes find it hard to reply to a message when they haven’t had a similar experience. This doesn’t mean that they don’t care; maybe they don’t know what to say to you.
It’s not surprising you feel relieved that your Dad has died, as it means an end to the suffering he caused you and Ric. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love him and won’t miss him. What has happened to you is terrible, you have lost both of your parents and have been hurt by someone you should have been able to trust. But it is really good that you are in a home with Ric and you have a social worker who you like. Maybe you could try talking to her; we understand that this may be hard. It sounds as though you want to talk about what has happened. If you feel that you would like to talk to somebody that you don’t know then please send us an email using our private message form or phone Childline (0800 1111) if you want to talk to someone on the phone. There are people who want to listen and support you, so you don’t have to feel that you have to cope with this on your own.

Take care and best wishes,
Jen and Jenny RD4U volunteers

Subject: reply

what do u mean no body cares? talk to me

Subject: Im glad sum1 cares!!! THANX

hi
ur rite i want to talk but i find it hard, i dont want to ruin my dads name or let him down!!!
I loved him so much but all he ever did was be horrible to me and Ric.
1 time jst a few weeks after my mums death he came home late after bein at da pub (he was SO SO drunk). Me and Ric wanted comfort but all we got was a beatin dat resulted in me endin up in Hospital.The doctors took no interest!! that nite i knew my dad hated us.
I jst want to forget but i cant!!! Ric is findin jst as hard as me.
Thanx 4 carin
JESS
: )

PS were not allowed an email address in da home!!

Subject: Your Dad

Hi Jess,
it sounds like your Dad really didn't cope well when your mum died and that he took it out on you & Ric, which was wrong. I don't think that anyone will think you're giving your Dad a bad name you're just telling us what happened to you. It does sound like a lot is going on for you and though you can't e-mail us directly there are other places where you can talk to someone on line who can help and you don't need an e-mail address. There's a really good website at www.there4me.org.uk. Maybe you could try them.
Hope this has helped. Take care. Joanne rd4u volunteer

Subject: Being Honest

Hi Jess,
I just wanted to post a message to let you know that I think you're really brave. It must've been really hard for you to be honest about everything that happened with your dad on this board but you did it.

Your social worker sounds nice, maybe you could think about confiding in her, when you feel ready.

I honestly believe you and your brother will be fine; it may take some time but you're a really strong young woman and I wish you the best of luck!

Love 'n' hugs
Alexis
xxxxxx

Subject: (no subject)

THanx Joanne its really helpin talkin on da other site. i let u know how its goin.
THANX
JESS

Subject:how ta deal with greath

my name is macaulay I reely feel for you jess you should tell your dad that you love him and say your sorry about your mum