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Message from: Jennifer - 06 Oct 03

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I lost my dad 3 months ago, i am finding it a very difficult time. I am scared,unhappy,angry,hurt,and feel lost. Me and my dad were very close and i feel as though there is no future without him.

My family have tried to be there for me and so has my fiance.The problems are with me constantly and i feel so alone. I cannot beleive this has happened.

I am 19 years old.
Im sorry to contact you but if you would like to contact me on (sorry Jennifer but we can't include your email address - rd4u team) with any helpful advice or anything on how you are coping i would be greatly appreciative.

Jennifer x

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Hey, my mum died about 4 months ago, when i was 16. i was was very close to her like you were to your dad. i find it very difficult because i don't get on with my dad- its a clash of personalities i think!
I would like say i know how you are feeling, but i think everyone deals with such situtaions in totally different ways, and from my own experience it kind of annoys me when people say it to me; when they have no idea how you are feeling. They didn't see their mum dying right in front of their very eyes, the feeling of helplesness and the realisation that life will never be the same again.
But i think things will get better with time, you have your whole life to look forward to, although it doesn't seem like it now you will be happy again. Don't expect miracles to happen too soon, give yourself some time.

lov Em Xxx

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y did ya mum die i am sorry to hear even if i dont know u but well i like to share my sympathy y did she die was she ill or something i havent anyone die recently so i cant remeber wat its like although i have experenced a couple of years ago wiht my grandad

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Hey, my mum died very suddenly and unexectedly. She'd had cancer twice- when i was 8 and again when i was 15. A post mortem was carried out but was inconclusive, no cancerous cells were found, we still don't know what happened. All i know was that it was very scary...
lov Em Xxxx

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well i am still very sorry to hear it how did u cope with this tragic loss how did it affect u coz i dont know anyone who has or had cancer so i dont know wat u went thorugh ibet it was a freaky experince knowing that ur mum could die at anytime and u couldnt do anything to stop it

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Hey, i didn't find it that freaky to be honest. When i was eight i didn't realsie that mum had cancer, all i understood was that mum was poorly and had to go into hospital to be made better. When she was diagnosed for the second time it was very upsetting but i knew if she had done it once before, she could do it again.
It was hard to cope with everything at first, but a close school friend has had a similar experince when she was seven and has helped me- she has always been their for me, through the thick and thin...! We have a mutual understanding of each other, which makes it easier- somtimes i cant put how i feel into words, which other people find frustrating.
I think i have grown up a lot. Before all this happened i used to be 'immature', well i had to grow up some time...!
Got to go and do some school work now, otherwise i'll get into trouble. P.s. sorry for the lateness of reply, i have been busy this week at work experience, oh what fun....
Lov Em Xxxx

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u'll get through it even if u cant say wat u feel i got that alot but it sounds like u coped with it well which is good but not in a bad im sorry if i offended u then dont worry about the lateness of the reply i done work experince so i no wat its like

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