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message no. 1525
| Message from: Luke, 01 Aug 07 |
| Subject: coping on your birthday
My mother passed on the 2nd March this year. Tomorrow is my birthday and i am really missing her. I just really wish she was here for it. Its hard because i am also sitting university exams, which are not so important because they are only first year and i only need 40% to pass and it does not count towards my final degree grade. This is the first set of exams i sat too after my mother passed away and i miss so much how i used to ring her up after every exam and we would talk about it, but now i cant, and i feel so lonely and empty. I just wish i had a few more days with her as i miss her so much. She was and still is the rock in my life, and i just cannot imagining myself having to wait another 50 odd years to see her again. Anyone got any tips on how to cope? And how they speak to their lost loved one? Many thanks.
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Reply from: eliza 03 Aug 07
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Subject: Coping
i lost my mum and i find birthdays hard as well. i hope you had a great day and enjoyed yourself. exams are hard. i just sat an english gcse recently and i was so affraid id get an article about the cancer that killed mum. i coped by writing about her in practice papers and getting used to it. when i want to talk to mum i walk to her grave and sit with her there. or have you tried meditation? i like to sit sometimes and walk with my mum in my head. coping with death is hard. i think the only thing is keep seeing friends, talking to people and just keep living. sometimes i write stories about what it would be like had mum been here, or stories about my memories of her. i like to talk to my family and hear their memories, but its hard not to cry sometimes. i hope this ramble helped in some way, hope you feel happy soon and are coping ok, love elizaxxx
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Reply from: Madi, 07 Aug 07
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Subject: Coping
04 reply : i am so sorry to hear aboout your mum - my mum died on July 3rd, and my birthday was just over 2 weeks later. it was horrible. it all felt so empty without my mum, and not getting a birthday card from her hurt SO much, especially when i found a card a few days later in a drawer that she had bought for me but never written. i've just finished my first year at uni - i got my results in the post the other day and it hurts that i couldn't tell her how i did. i miss my mum SO much, she had been ill for a long time, but it was still the biggest shock. i can't believe i'll never see her again, talk to her again. i wish i could help you with ways to talk to someone who has died, but i just feel so alone, i need to talk to my mum so much. she was everything to me. but i can't. i have dreams where she's still alive and wake p beleing she never died. then i have to tell myself that she has. i miss her so much. x x x x |
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