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Message from: Caty, 3 Jan 07

Subject: need people to understand

I lost my dad last year. I have a mum and a little sister, so I have been strong for them all year and carrying on as normal. Now I'm really starting to hurt, but nobody realises. I am 20, so I am an adult, even though I feel like a child. I feel selfish and attention-seeking, but I really wish I could just stand outside and scream and yell, and then everybody would know exactly how I feel, and I am still hurting. Is that selfish and attention-seeking? It feels like it is. feel so guilty.

Subject: Don't feel guilty

I know how you feel. I am 21 and lost my Dad a year ago. I have had to keep it together for my mum and so that i get through Uni. You do need some you time to deal with things and it's not selfish how you feel so don't feel guilty.

Subject: understand

Hi I lost my dad in october of 2005 i was 23 when it happened losing your dad is a huge thing to deal with and the way you feel is completly natural i felt everything that you have mentioned and still do it's not selfish your dad is still your dad no matter what your age and losing someone you love that is as close as a parent is very hard i hope your ok and i'm here if you need to talk take care your not alone xx