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Message from: Lorraine - 20 Aug 03

Subject: Anniversary coming up

My mum died nearly a year ago now it will be the anniversary on the 26th of August and i am still finding certain thngs really hard to deal with i was just wondering if anyone had any ideas what to do for my mums anniversary. We take flowers every week to the crematorium and i just feel that i would like to do something different.

Reply from: Amy - 21 Aug 03

Subject: For Lorraine

Lorraine,

Iím sorry for the loss of your mother, really I am. The 3rd anniversary of my brotherís death is tomorrow so we are getting ready to deal with that here. What Iíve done is buy him some special flowers in his favourite colour to put at his grave with a card.

I know what you mean by wanting to do something more. How about getting a helium balloon with a message for her attached and letting that go? Some people find that really helpful. Or you could write her a letter and keep it just between you and her? I keep a diary type thing were I write messages to my brother when I feel I need to, that helps me a lot, no doubt I will be writing tomorrow. In remembering Chris I also listen to the type of music he liked, or things that remind me of him. I donít know if there is anything like that you could doÖ

I know the 1st anniversary is so hard as you donít know really what to expect, I hope you are ok, and remember your mum will be there watching over you and be proud of whatever you chose to do.

Take care,
Amy

Reply from: lorraine - 02 Sep 03

Subject: Thanks Amy

thanx amy for replying back to me sorry it took so long to write again
last week was a very hard week we took floers to the crematorium and we loving memory cards too
sorry to hear about your brother it must be awful to lose your brother i couldnt imigine being without my sister

Reply from:hayley 07 Apr 04

Subject:(no subject)

you know, i think it's really brave and respectful you and your family did anything. However horrible this may seem...whatever happened on my dad's death anniversary stayed personal and i dont think anyone visited or anything..he doesn't have a grave i think he has a tree or something..=(

I hope you're ok and have all the support you deserve *big hugs* ...I haven't been brave enough to go to see whats even there for my dad but i think it is a tree or a memorial or something since he was cremated...you are soo so so brave...
This is me after 2 years..*sigh*

Reply from:gaynor

Subject: lorraine

hi there my mum diead on the 2 august04 one day after my 37 birthday,i know what your going through,im finding it hard myself,im going to go play bingo on this day in memory of my mum she liked going and if i win i shall donate the winnings to the diebetic soc in mums memory,per haps you could do some thing simular,keep your chin up.

Reply from:gaynor

Subject:lorraine

hi there my mum diead on the 2 august04 one day after my 37 birthday,i know what your going through,im finding it hard myself,im going to go play bingo on this day in memory of my mum she liked going and if i win i shall donate the winnings to the diebetic soc in mums memory,per haps you could do some thing simular,keep your chin up.

Reply from:dev

Subject:im soo sorry

my gradad died and i htought id never be the same agenim not im stronger i cry alot but i know he wudnt want that im soo sorry 4 u im glad u have the confidence to carry on good luckxx

Reply from:Ian

Subject:(no subject)

my dad died november 29th 05, life has changed and my family is split in 2, i spoke to him 2 hours before he died and wished i could re-live that moment. i would give everything i own to just to hear him speak to me again...

Reply from: NO

Subject: (no subject)

i just want my dady back, is there any way i can do that? HE CANT BE DEAD! HE JUST CANT! your all talking bout this as if its all over but my dad HAS TO BE ALIVE, I CAN FEEL IT!

Reply from: Cathy

Subject: Ians message

Dear Ian - I am sorry about your dad. I understand your feelings - I would love to speak with my dad again, or help him go for a walk - I miss him so much - he was my best friend, he died 16 October 2005. I carry a photo of him in my wallet so he is always with me.

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