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Message from: Hannah, 28 Aug 06

Subject: my best friend

I feel so alone. I saw my best friend die when i was 14, and i have very bad flash backs and nightmares. She got hit by a motorbike right infront of me and i feel like no one understands. people keep telling me 2 get over it...but they dont get it. i cant. seeing my best m8 like that has ruined my life. theres not a day that goes by that i dont think about her. i just feel like no one understands because no1 i know has seen anything like that. please, is there anyone out there who feels like me? When it happened I felt so scared, and i was shaking. I phoned an ambulance...and the images of her and the motorbike driver on the floor wont get out of my head. I feel bitter about it all and lonely.

Subject: photo

Hi hannah, I can hear yr pain, please try and keep a photo of yr friend on you at all times, when you feel low and can see the image of yr friend and the motorbike, look at the photo and think of some good time and nice memories, yr friend would not want you this sad, and feeling lonely, im sure she is looking down on you and would be happier knowing you were happy and having fun. Keep the fun times you had alive. Take care, thinking of you. Jo xxx

Subject: Your pain

I am so sorry about what you went thru. My daughter lost her boyfriend on 26 Feb. She had gone home in a taxi and he was walking home when he was hit and dragged over a mile by a taxi. He died at the scene. I cant get it out of my mind. Its so horible. He was a lovely lad and must have gone through hell. Try and write your feelings down in a journal. Most of all don't feel you are alone. My daughter feels like you do. Please don't think you are alone in how you feel.

Subject: i know how you feel

Hi, my best friend was hit by a car last april and died at the scene, i didnt actually see it and i cant imagine what that must of been like as i am in bits without that!! I have seen pictures of the car that hit him though and it was all smashed up! i have nightmares about that. It also goes round and round in my head that if the driver had stopped straight away my friend may still be alive!! its coming up to a year for me now and i feel worse and worse everyday. The only thing that helps me (and may help you) is to talk to other people who knew your friend and talk about all the good times you had together. Im probably not the best person to give you advice as i dont know what to do either, but i will talk to you if you want as i kind of know how you feel. take care of yourself. xx