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Message from: eliza, 28 Aug 06

Subject: mum

last year my mum died and it is nearly the end of the summer holidays and im so tired and scared. i really want to be around my friends again, but im so tired because i cant sleep and im afraid of what they'll say. i mean i dont want to listne to them talking about their mothers and all. i dont see why they shouldnt though. and also they talk about death, or at least one boy does and it hurts me. ive told him, an dhe just makes jokes, like oh, n o cant say that , eliza doesnt like it! all the time. i miss my friends cus i havnt seen any of them for about a month, but im kinda afraid of seeing them.

Subject: loosing a mum

Hi there, Im really sorry to hear about your Mum. I lost my Mum three years ago, and I still miss her every single day. I also had a lot of trouble sleeping and occassionally still go through periods of insomnia.Please go to your Doctor and try some alternative therapies, and do not let yourself suffer. Do not isolate yourself from your friends. I know it is hard to hear them chatting about their mum's, but remember you can talk and share memories of your Mum too. Also it is very important for you to have people and things round you that give you a sense of normality. Don't be afraid to have fun and be kind and gentle with yourself. As for that boy, he sound like a right horror and would advise you to look him in the eye and tell him to grow up! What has happened to you will have matured you very quickly, and you need people in your life that support you. Can you talk to aunties, friends of your mum etc? All these things take the edge off the pain.

Subject: mums death

it has been 5 years since my mum died from lung cancer. I know nothing I say will help really, but one thing that has helped me is this. You know when people say you are a "credit" to your mum, dad etc- I have tried since then to be a credit to her. People can see how good a mum i had if they see how well I haver been brought up. I wish you all the absolute very best in your lives-all of you.

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thanks. thats helpful. thanks alot. im very grateful for the replys.