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Message from: Tasha, 18 Jun 06

Subject: self harm

i was just wondreing if anyone else has turned to self harm because of family issues or because of losing someone.
i have and i feel stupid!

Subject: I have!!!

hi. i turned to self harm when my nan died in 2000. i know now that it was a bad thing to do as although it might of felt right at the time looking at the scars now i wished i hadnt. my grandad passed away recently and ive thought about self harming again but ive resissted and tried to stay strong. if you ever want to talk i am here as i have been through it too. xxxx keep strong xxxxx Nicki xxxx

Subject: self harm reply

i turned to self harm aswell, lots of people do, although its not a good idea. i did it for over a year, untill my teacher found out an she supported me till i got to a stage where i felt i could start to deal with out using self harm as an answer.

Subject: re: self harm

hiya
dnt feel stupid hun, alot of ppl turn to self harm to deal with difficult things like wen sum1 dies. i self harmed since i was 12 im 18 now and stopped for about 2 yrs. but then my nan died and i started to do it again, BUT its not a good idea to do it as a way of coping because it becomes addictive. i urge u to tlk to sum1 a trusted mate or ur parents or a relative or even ur GP as wotever u say to them is in complete confidence unless its life threating or ur under 16. but pls hun get help before u become addicted to it. plus u wont be able to wear nice clothes without ugly scars!!!! summers comming and u wanna be able to wear clothes that dnt cover u up completeley
stay strong hun addy
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p.s sorri if this post is a bit random in places, ive got such a headache lol.

Subject: (no subject)

hi i know exactly how you feel i used to and i now have horrible scars down my arms and i can't wear nice summer clothes anymore and in the long run just made me more unhappy. talk to friends and family about what ur doin and get help but if u can't instead of cutting urself hold ice cubes in ur hands until they melt so that ur still hurtin urself but its safer and doesn't scar. good luck for the future as things will get better.

Subject: Don't be

dont feel stupid but dont harm yourself either. when i made a mistake in school i used to pop myself and believe me its not worth it.

Subject: DONT WORRY

HI TASHA
I HAVE SELF HARMED BEFORE I LOST MY MUM BUT I REALISED WHEN I WAS OLDER ENOUGH I HAD A TATTOO DONE WITH MY MUMS NAME ON IT. I KNOW WHEN YOU DO STUFF LIKE THAT IT GETS STUFF OFF YOUR CHEST BUT ITS NOT DOING YOU NE GOOD. JUST THINK OF ALL THE HAPPY MEMORYS YOU HAD. TAKE CARE STACI X

Subject: I have

I have turned to self harm because of losing people, family life and other stuff. I use to feel stupid about doing it but because I have been a self harmer for 2 years I now understand why I do it and that it is really common.
wb if you want any information on self harm. Take Care xxx

Subject: i have

i have loads of times, dont worry you are not alone. my brother commited suicide about 6 months ago, and i turned 2 self harm then. you are not stupid, there is nothing stupid about it. just tell someone you trust and realy care about and explain 2 them why you are doing it, i am sure they will understand. keep smiling hunni u will get there!!
take care and find help, there is plenty of help out there!! plz plz plz find it xx bi

Subject: i know

copel of mates have and its hard to no that there life is so hard and some of the times it harts them and i see them cry because they cant stop i wish i can help them but i cant if u need help just say danielle xx

Subject: Self harm

Hi i self harm too but once it went a little too far and i tried to OD but it didnt work and now im glad it didnt because life gats better when u talk to ur friends

Subject: (no subject)

Hi every1. I used to self harm regularly, so i understand the feeling of relief it gives you, however, i also understand the problems it can cause. please do not turn to self harm to help cope with the death of a loved one, there are much better ways. I am currently trying to give up self harming by doing sport instead. I find that taking excess anger out on a punch bag makes me feel better than after ive cut myself. please seek help if you are self harming.and if you need someone to talk to, im always here for you. You may also want to seek help on the web (NSHN-national self harm network) proved very helpful to a friend of mine. You mentioned that you felt stupid for self harming...please, don't blame yourself for self harming. It is our minds way of letting excess emotions out...its just the way we chose to let them out that is the problem. Try coming up with alternatives to let your emotions out, such as poetry, art, sport etc.
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